ON THE COUCH: Shocking Confessions of a Self-Made Millionaire: The LOVE of Success: The Top I Do’s of Making Success You’ll Love.
Everyone consciously or subconsciously is hoping, wishing and dreaming of having success. But, all to often, in their wildest dreams of success, they neglect to add into the dream criteria that the success be one that will make them feel happy, joyous, free and loving the life they’ve created.
All too frequently, I bear direct witness to those who have created material success and yet have lost that loving feeling for what they’re doing, and that discontent permeates all areas of their lives adversely affecting the quality of their lives, including their ability to be clear and present for LOVE.
“If today were the last day of your life, would you want to do what you are about to do today?” ~Steve Jobs (1955-2011)
Here Are the Seven I Do’s to Creating a Life You’ll Love:
1. Only Engage in Activities that Enhance the Quality of Your Life: In your eagerness to attain success, don’t neglect to take reasonable time out to analyze each opportunity that presents itself to you. Grabbing onto everything and anything that comes your way will only push out your time to success and more importantly, will fail to deliver you a successful quality of life.
2. Don’t Become Too Hungry for Success: Too hungry for success means you will go to any lengths to get what you want. This is often the downfall of many entrepreneurs. It’s when they start making too many sacrifices to get ahead and make mistakes. It often means lowering one’s standards, which results in less than desirable results in all areas of one’s life.
3. Be Discerning Who You Partner With: This applies to all areas of one’s life. If any partnership isn’t one which enhances the quality of your life and inspires you to grow; then it simply isn’t going to nurture you, your success or your happiness. Partnerships should be energizing and not draining.
4. Be Willing to Say No and Walk Away: After seeing warning signs that something isn’t working out and rationally assessing the situation, be courageous in letting go and in trusting that something more in alignment with your values and goals will replace it. Long term success is achieved when you know where and when to cut your losses by giving something up that realistically doesn’t serve to preserve both your wealth and well-being.
5. Have a Clear Definition of Success: Understand that sustainable success is a balanced achievement of wealth and well being through consistently living the truth of your values. Regularly ask yourself if the opportunity in front of you supports the truth of your core values and your overall health, wealth and well being and if it doesn’t –don’t go there.
6. Have Outside Interests: Success is achieved and sustained when one has a balanced life through consistently, healthfully engaging in the four corner stones of success: Mental, Physical, Financial and Spiritual. Overworking creates a out of balance dynamic which only brings dissatisfaction to you and those around you.
7. Have a Relationship with a Higher Power: A life without faith is at peril. Life is constantly filled with change and challenge. To move through them successfully, one needs optimal clarity, calm and courage that only a power greater than oneself can deliver. A faith filled practice provides answers that can’t be accessed without divine inspiration.
A successful life is one that is filled with love. The love of what you’re doing, who you are sharing your time and energy with, who you’re serving and inspiring and who’s inspiring you. If you’ve lost that loving feeling, it’s time to reconnect to your heart and soul. Then, go out and boldly commit to love again– more deeply–more richly.
In Closing My Shocking Confession: I had just left an 8-year marriage. It was a tough decision. I’m a fiercely loyal, long term player. The reality of my husband’s inability to be present to himself or to me was one that could no longer be ignored. I tried to fix him because I wanted him to be happy and successful. I was young and back then I thought I could fix those who didn’t want to be fixed. He didn’t want to give up the behaviors that kept him underachieving in all areas of his life. I had to let go. This one experience taught me going forward to see every relationship opportunity for the truth of what it is in it’s present “as is” condition and to assess it for its ability to enhance the quality of my own life and hence the lives of those around me. It also taught me that if I’m not clear about myself, my values and commit 100% to living my truth in every and all circumstances, then I will not be able to live a successful life or lead others to one.