ON THE COUCH: Shocking Confessions of a Self-Made Millionaire: Be Humbly & Hugely Successful

ON THE COUCH: Shocking Confessions of a Self-Made Millionaire: Be Humbly & Hugely Successful

Super Sized Success is attained and sustained by those who possess specific character qualities. It’s been proven, time and time again, that focusing on becoming more rather than having more, is critical to the achievement of optimal wealth and well-being. Essentially, becoming what I call “inside rich” is the key to becoming ultra-successful.

What’s so awesome about having a primary goal of becoming “inside rich” is that virtually anyone can achieve it. There is zero external barrier to attaining it. You do not need an education, money or even a business to become inside rich. All you need is one character quality to achieve it. That virtue is HUMILITY.

Contrary to the belief that humility renders a person powerless, it infuses one with great physical and mental strength, instilling an ability to persevere and succeed amidst challenges, obstacles and opposition. Humility is the ultimate shield of self-protection. Without it’s shelter, it leaves one vulnerable to failure.

“Whoever exalts himself will be humbled, and whoever humbles himself will be exalted.” Mathew 23:12

Humility is an insurance policy protecting one’s very important personal assets to success: inner peace, mental, physical, spiritual and financial well-being. Without protecting these invaluable assets, one’s pride and ego step in to overrun the show. Ego run riot causes it to rain ruin rather than reign success.

Our greatest opportunity for success lies in living a humble life free from false pride and pretense. Mere words cannot express the sheer magnitude of the important role that humility plays in achieving and sustaining success.

Here Are the Top Ten Ways to Become Humbly and Hugely Successful:

1. Do not seek attention or admiration

2. Do not be concerned what others think of you. Only care what your higher power thinks of you

3. Fight off all forms of pride

4. Do not fear criticism. Use it to your advantage to correct personal faults or flaws

5. Do not compare yourself to others

6. Be impressed only by your servant leadership ability and ability to stay humble

7. Refuse to fight over unimportant matters

8. Remember, silence often carries more power than words

9. Seek not to judge, but to understand

10. See commonalities and not differences

By thinking, walking and talking humility in all your affairs, you will be gracefully guided to greater self-awareness, personal development, creativity, compassion, intuitive intelligence, and a positive mental attitude; making you “inside rich” for the attainment of Super Sized Success.

In Closing My Shocking Confession: I was having a rough week where nothing seemed to be getting done well enough or fast enough. I started to compare my accomplishments with others who have gone before me…I was getting moody and irritable…thinking I would never achieve the degree of positive impact that I aspired to. I caught myself real quick and went to meditate to self-correct my stinking thinking. I asked one question before commencing meditation: What would you have me do differently? I set the timer for 30 min and went deep. When the timer chimed, I had a very clear cut and concise answer: “Do not care about the impact you will have. Care only about doing the work. Caring about impact is the ego. Caring only about doing the work is the divine.” Wow! Blew me away! I hope it does you too.

ON THE COUCH: Shocking Confessions of a Self-Made Millionaire: To Thine Own Action Be True

ON THE COUCH: Shocking Confessions of a Self-Made Millionaire: To Thine Own Action Be True

The Success Gurus #1 gold standard advice for achieving success is to take massive action. They further advise prior to commencing taking action to specifically know: 1) the result you want to achieve 2) your purpose for wanting to attain it 3) the date you will achieve it by, and 4) the steps you will take. After jotting all down, you’re ready, set and go.

By now, everyone who has been on a quest for success has heard, and most likely followed this noteworthy advice. Yet, despite having followed it, aren’t satisfied with the success they’ve achieved. And, thus, often left suffering from feelings of failure. But, that simply is not the truth. The truth is that the formula has failed the person, not the person who has failed.

This traditional RX for success has neglected to include one massively important ingredient. That ingredient is Truth. You see, Truth is the one ingredient that makes each person unique. It’s the one ingredient that customizes and individualizes the RX for success. Otherwise, the RX is a generic, non-specific formulae that doesn’t take each person’s unique Truth into account. Well, no wonder why the formula doesn’t work very expediently or effectively!

Taking massive action works to attain super sized, sustainable success only when the actions taken are consistent with the truth of who you are.


Personal authenticity is what makes you special and comprises the unique offering you possess to gift upon the world and is your divined destiny to fulfil. Thus, it goes to reason, that any action taken (let alone massive action) devoid of the truth of who you are, is dissociative and disrupts one’s ability to attain and sustain success. Well, that’s a whole lot of wasted effort if you ask me!

Now that I’ve driven home the importance of applying personal authenticity to every action taken, there is an imperative add-on, that if not used in conjunction with authenticity, will cause all that energy expended to take massive action, to be ineffectual.  That add-on is this: to be both truthful and authentic.  These twin truths when combined provide the missing ingredient to the typical standard advice on how to achieve success.

Taking massive action becomes effective and speeds your time to success when you are being:

1.  Authentic. Living out the truth of who you are at your core.

2.  Truthful. Walking and talking the truth. Making decisions and taking actions that are consistent with truth not fabrication.

So, yes, go ahead and make “take massive action” your standard for success, but make “Truth” your gold standard of loyalty to yourself and all those you serve to achieve the super sized success that you desire and deserve.

In closing my shocking confession: I really believed I was going to knock it out the park! I took massive action and got the big job. I was thrilled. I was on my way to achieving my financial goal. Thrilled turned into derailed, when, I was like, WTF! I’m not happy and I’m not liking what I’m seeing, hearing or doing. I had just realized being a corporate spy was totally not me. Was it cool? Yes. Did it pay a lot? Yes. Is corporate spying a norm in America, yes. I hated it and myself for doing it. I took immediate action and quit.  My next action step was to take a time out to rediscover my inner truth, my authentic self (as corny as it all sounds) so that I could go on to take constructive rather than destructive massive action. I learned that massive action absent of truth is fruitless DOING. And, a loyalty to truth guarantees BEING a success.

ON THE COUCH: Shocking Confessions of a Self-Made Millionaire: The “Nouveau Riche” Entrepreneur

ON THE COUCH: Shocking Confessions of a Self-Made Millionaire: The “Nouveau Riche” Entrepreneur

Nouveau Riche is a term to describe a self-made person who has become wealthy during their own life time rather than through wealth by inheritance.  And yet, rather than being praised for becoming self-made, being “new money” historically has been stigmatized.  The stigmata is that “new money” people are inferior to those coming from old money because they lack sound value systems and exhibit conspicuous consumption.

Oh, my goodness! Has the world changed or what? Someone needs to update all the dictionaries! Nouveau Riche has been redefined and modernized by a new breed of entrepreneurs. Those who through their hard work and dedication to manifesting their vision into reality have revolutionized the world we live in. And, rather than exhibit behaviors of over-consumption and self-absorption, live lives of minimalism and profound giving.

“Wealth is not to feed our egos but to feed the hungry and to help people help themselves.” Andrew Carnegie

Ok, so where am I going with this you may be asking. No longer do we have to hold the belief that wanting to become rich is a bad thing. Many good people perceive that if they desire to be rich, there must be something unspiritual, undesirable or unhealthy about themselves. Or, if they do want to be rich, they are afraid to admit it for fear of being judged.

It’s 2017. A brand-new year!  Now is the time to let go of the outdated belief that wanting to become rich is a negative aspiration. Now is the time, more than ever, to strive to get rich at every level of your existence: mentally, physically, spiritually, and yes, financially. There is no shame in it. There is only positive benefit in it.

After studying the 2016 entrepreneurial stats and the world’s richest entrepreneurs here’s what you need to know in 2017 to get and keep you motivated to become the world’s next “new money” breed of entrepreneur:

1. Age is not a barrier. The fact is that the rate of new entrepreneurs is highest among boomers between the ages of 55-64.

2. Having a passion will automatically drive you. A relentless desire to bring your vision into reality automatically prompts you to take relentless and consistent action.

3. A Lack of Money does not prevent success. Those who persist in pursuing their dreams by taking action every day to manifest it attract the money they need to achieve entrepreneurial success.

4. Not having too much is an advantage. Minimalism breeds focus. Focus is the key to success and attainment of wealth. Eliminating the non-essentials that distract you from your goals gives you the mental prowess needed to stay focused and to innovate.

5. Starting small leads to great achievements. It’s ok to start small. Great wealth doesn’t happen overnight, but it can come expeditiously by being pragmatic and sticking to your vision and values.

“Without passion, you don’t have energy. Without energy, you have nothing.” – Warren Buffett

In closing my shocking confession: My single goal as early as I can recall was to strive to make a difference in each person’s life that I encountered. I did not want to leave a single interaction without hopefully having imparted something positive. That passion is what drove all my actions. Then, to my surprise, I became a millionaire. I kept it secret for a very long time. I kept it a secret because I thought I would be perceived as a bad person for being rich and that it would negatively impact my relationships. What I discovered was, as long as I stayed true to my passion and my values, I was able to preserve the quality of my relationships, maintain balance and humility through self-restraint–all the while having a greater capacity to give more.