ON THE COUCH: Shocking Confessions of a Self-Made Millionaire: Becoming A Success is About 1 Thing

ON THE COUCH: Shocking Confessions of a Self-Made Millionaire: Becoming A Success is About 1 Thing

It’s about “the climb”. Remember that Miley Cyrus song? Her song, The Climb, became a runaway hit in 2009. It won an MTV Award, Teen Choice Award and went Triple Platinum. It became a smashing success because it was a “power ballad” with a message that everyone could relate to.

“I can almost see it.
That dream I’m dreaming,
But there’s a voice inside my head saying,
“You’ll never reach it.”

The lyrics describe a successful person as one who has the strength of character to keep on moving forward no matter what self-doubt and challenges they face on their way up to the top. BUT, that Top is not the end game nor 1 outcome achieved the final reward. The lyrics go on to say…

“There’s always gonna be another mountain
I’m always gonna wanna make it move….
Ain’t about what’s waitin’ on the other side…. It’s all about—it’s all about the climb.”

Inherent in the message is a hard truth that I have personally discovered about the core attribute that wildly successful people all have in common. That core attribute is an insatiable hunger to keep climbing in order to keep moving mountains. In essence, that it isn’t about the tangible reward attained, but fulfilling the intangible hard-wired need to continually evolve oneself and their own contribution to the world.

It’s a fire in the belly that never goes out. And, when you look back on any achievement, what you’ll remember most, is indeed, the climb you made to get there.

“But these are the moments
That I’m gonna remember most, yeah”

Do you have a fire in your belly that keeps moving you forward to climb yet another mountain?  If yes, comment below by typing “YES!”.  If you do, it’s a surefire sign that you are born to succeed and lead.

Lastly, no matter what you do….

“Keep on movin’
Keep climbin’
Keep the faith, baby
It’s all about—it’s all about the climb”

And, you too, just like the song itself, will win many awards along the way.

IN CLOSING MY SHOCKING CONFESSION: Early on as a newbie real estate salesperson, I was determined to achieve #1 salesperson status. I built a strategy to achieve it and poured 110% of myself into attaining it. I was hungry to make it happen. I never stopped, no matter what. I was gonna make it happen–period. It became the driving force in my life. Then, BAM, it became a reality. The day arrived that I was announced #1! What did I feel? I felt, like…. ‘Huh? Is that all there is? What now? What’s next?”. It felt good, for like a nanosecond, and then I was on to asking myself what was the meaning of what I had just achieved beyond the mere tangible symbol of success. I knew right then and there, that service to others, and helping them achieve their dream and their goals, was what the real win was…and that, I realized, was going to be a never-ending beautiful goal in my life.

ON THE COUCH: Shocking Confessions of a Self-Made Millionaire: Running The Race to Success

ON THE COUCH: Shocking Confessions of a Self-Made Millionaire: Running The Race to Success

You ever feel like you’re on a treadmill to success? Do you feel like you’re running as hard and as fast as you can, and yet, aren’t getting where you want to go?  If you answered yes to one or both of these questions, you’re not alone. Many of us, including me, have felt this way at one time or another.

Hi, I’m Linda Zander, and I’m a medaled marathon runner. Being a marathon runner has taught me many invaluable life lessons. The most significant of which is how to optimally prepare to successfully run and finish the long distance race.

Success is like a marathon. It’s a long distance race that indisputably can be won—with the proper preparation. Successfully getting yourself across that finish line means that you’ve mentally and physically prepared yourself to “go the distance”.

Here Are the Top Ten Training Tips to Winning the Success Race:

  1. Run your own race. Listed at #1 for good reason. It’s the one factor, that if you ignore it, can result in failure. Comparing yourself, your performance and speed with others is a no-win situation. There will always be someone faster, slower, behind you or in front of you. The goal is to do your personal best and to be your own competition. Learning to focus on your own performance, rather than others, is a known skill of champions.
  2. Have a specific, targeted goal. Know exactly what you want and when you want to achieve it. Example: “I want to do a marathon” becomes: “I want to finish a marathon in 4 hours”, becomes: “I want to finish a marathon in 4 hours to qualify for Boston Marathon next year”. What’s your specific goal? Drill it down and have a target date of completion.
  3. Stick to a schedule. If you don’t stick to the game plan, you don’t got game. Highly successful people stick to a routine schedule. By making and sticking to a schedule you create a habit of success for yourself and prevent outside distractions from taking you off course.
  4. Work at your own pace. Everyone has their own innate work pace that is ideal for them that permits a balanced achievement of optimal mental and physical well-being. Pushing yourself to go too fast or allowing yourself to go too slow, can cost you the race.
  5. Eat, sleep and drink to support a strong body. How you decide to treat your body will have a direct effect on your outcomes. It’s a hard fact. If you want a winning strategy, you must include fueling your body and mind with only healthy habits.
  6. Know your strengths and weaknesses. It will pay off big time for you to be honest with yourself in your assessment of your assets and liabilities. A winning strategy takes into account how best to mitigate weaknesses.
  7. Use the right gear. Knowing, having and using the right tools is important to achieving success. The right tools will enhance peak performance and productivity. Are you ready to commit to acquiring and embracing the tools you need to thrive?
  8. Fuel your mind with positivity. Surround yourself with positive thoughts, images, people, places and things. We wouldn’t be human if we never had a negative thought, but allowing it to overcome us is optional. Each and every day see yourself successfully crossing that finish line.
  9. Become a member of a tribe. Running a race with those who share a common goal is one of the most rewarding and powerful experiences there is. Master mind groups share a spirit of giving, provide helpful feedback, act as accountability partners, and motivate and inspire you to stay on track, go the distance and achieve beyond what you could have ever possibly imagined.
  10. Practice self-control. None of the above can be achieved without exercising self-control. Self-control is the engine of success. Without it, we flounder, wander and wonder why we don’t have what we want. Self-control is a daily practice. If you practice it daily, it will become a habit that will continue to strengthen you. Self-control is a muscle that requires regular workouts to become big, strong and withstand pressure.

 “The battle is always won before you are on the battlefield.” Sun Tzu

In Closing My Shocking Confession: I have to be honest here. I’m the brand of person who wants everything to go fast. I remember when I used to play chess and a player told me about “speed chess” and I instantly (ha) thought “now that’s for me”.  But, the truth is, in spite of my inclination to want to go as fast as I can in all that I do, I’ve learned to use self-control in managing my mental and physical energy to allow for a more successful outcome. I’ve learned that if I rush everything and everybody, myself included, I just add unnecessary stress and wear and tear. And, rather than getting me across the finish line faster, it ultimately slows my time to success. I moderate myself daily not to go full throttle towards my goal, but rather to go fast enough to push myself outside my comfort zone, but not so fast that it injures my odds of achieving success.

ON THE COUCH: Shocking Confessions of a Self-Made Millionaire: Romancing Success: The Four Agreement Advantage

ON THE COUCH: Shocking Confessions of a Self-Made Millionaire: Romancing Success: The Four Agreement Advantage

What do most of us think of when we decide we want a new client, new job, romantic partner, business partner, a raise, promotion, market share, funding, to become a known brand, or even to get accepted into a private club or school? Our mind begins to race in developing a plan to woo and wow, wine and dine, put on our best “game face” and/or produce a brilliant “dog and pony show”.

We may believe the above is how to go about the business of romancing success (because that’s what we’ve been conditioned to believe), but it isn’t. It isn’t about putting on a show to present an image we believe the other party wants to see. It’s quite the opposite.

Romancing success starts from within. It’s an inside job. Not an outside job. It’s the internal condition of a person that catalyzes or neutralizes external success. Great internal conditioning equals great external success. It’s really that simple.

Society bombards us with external stimuli and messaging that tells us that we need to buy this or that in order to remake ourselves into an acceptable image before we can become successful. It just isn’t true. These are Band-Aids that hide what’s underneath—the Band-Aid doesn’t reveal what’s hidden.

The really, really good news is that Romancing Success from the inside out doesn’t require you to buy anything, go through years of therapy, or for you to be or do anything that doesn’t support the beautiful truth of who you are.  You can be and do you–the real you–and achieve maximum success!

To achieve great internal conditioning for the attainment of maximum success, begin romancing success today. Take the oath to live by the Four Agreement Advantage:

  1. Thou shalt not seek to buy or do more, but to become more. Ask yourself: How can I improve myself? It can be as simple as practicing positive thinking and speaking each day.
  2. Thou shalt not lower your standards to get something. If any person or situation requires you to lower your standards, compromise your values or represent yourself as someone you are not—then walk away. It isn’t meant for you and won’t bring you the success you are seeking. It will only delay you on your road to success.
  3. Thou shalt be true. A daily devotion to being loyal, truthful, trustworthy and acting in accordance with true facts and reality. Being false to yourself or to others is a surefire way to fail, rather than succeed. The long term consequences are not worth the instant gratification of using falsity to “get out of a sticky situation” or “doing what I did to get ahead and I’ll worry about it later.”
  4. Thou shalt practice your faith daily. Don’t delay in choosing a benevolent supreme power source that resonates with your beliefs. Touch base with it daily. The power of faith provides the power to persist and persevere.


Success manifests inside before it can manifest outside. The higher you ascend interiorly, in body, mind and spirit, the higher you ascend in external success.

In closing my shocking confession: As young as I can recall, I wanted to be and feel successful. Everyone told me, without a college degree or some other kind of pedigree, I wouldn’t be able to attract the kinds of jobs, clients, or partners that would allow me to “make it” in the real world. I listened to all these “experts” and began my quest to accumulate as many types of professional accreditations, degrees, awards and trophies…. all to show everyone, and prove to myself, that I was indeed a success.  The only problem was that in spite of the “trophies”, I DID NOT feel successful at all. One day, I looked up at all that “stuff” I had on display and realized, I had to stop showing and start becoming. I pulled everything off the wall and shelves, shoved them in a big box, and carted it out and put it in deep storage. No more Band-Aids. I wanted to heal and reveal myself from the inside out. The day I put all the external stuff out of sight marked the beginning of my journey to interior wellness. A short time after beginning to romance interior success, I felt a happiness I hadn’t experienced ever before and external success began to flow into my life.