ON THE COUCH: Shocking Confessions of a Self Made Millionaire – How Achieving Goals Can Result in Failure

ON THE COUCH: Shocking Confessions of a Self Made Millionaire – How Achieving Goals Can Result in Failure

Did you know that attaining your goals could actually result in failure?

This is the shocking truth about goals that isn’t being talked about. And, yet, here I am daring to write you about it. Why? Because it is a truth you gotta hear ..that is assuming you want to know how to become happy, healthy, wealthy and wise. I.E. If you want to become a true success and want to avoid permanent failure…

There is a vast array of information out there on Goals. Why you must have them, what you should do to achieve them, how to make a plan for achieving them and why you are failing to achieving them. But, the shocking untold truth about goals is this: Attaining them may actually result in failure! WTF! How can that be possible. Work your behind off to become the greatest at whatever it is you dream of-actually achieve it-and then BAM you fall flat on your failure face. Not good and not pretty.

You see, creating goals and achieving goals that do not embody the truth of your own personal values (a person’s sense of right and wrong), will not and cannot endure over time. And, if the goal is about so strongly desiring an object or the “celebrity” that it may bring, more than valuing and honoring your values, you will be tempted to indulge in negative behaviors that will ultimately bring you failure rather than the success you were seeking.

So, rather than spending all your time and energy on setting and attaining goals that could ultimately fail you, focus your energy first and foremost on getting crystal clear on what your values are. Doing this will lay a firm foundation and fertile ground for you to become a bigger success than you could possibly ever imagine. Knowing and living your values, no matter what the temptation to do otherwise, is THE imperative to becoming a everlasting Super Sized Success.

The power to actualize true eternal success or ultimate failure is solely in your own hands. Nobody has that power over you. The Choice is yours and every decision you make counts.

Here are the Three basic rules of How to Attain Goals that result in everlasting success:

1. Do clarify and write down your core values

2. Do only set goals that once attained will represent the whole truth of your values

3. Do Not desire to attain any created thing that would drive a wedge between you, your true self and God

Here is a great quote to live by: “Let nothing appear great; nothing valuable or admirable; nothing worthy of esteem, nothing high, nothing truly praiseworthy or desirable, but what is eternal.” Thomas a’ Kempis

In closing, my shocking confession on this topic. I spent the 1st two and half decades of my life setting and attaining goals–winning one award after the other-and never feeling good enough, happy, joyous, free, successful, lovable or in touch with a higher power. Then the miracle happened..I finally came home…to myself that is. And, once I reclaimed myself–I was able to let go of the false pride, ego and bad habits that allowed me to create and attain the kind of goals that fulfill and last.


ON THE COUCH: Confessions of a Self Made Millionaire-Say “I DO” !

ON THE COUCH: Confessions of a Self Made Millionaire-Say “I DO” !

You know you want success real bad. You want financial freedom and the lifestyle and peace of mind that comes along with it. But, here’s the rub…there’s a huge divide between WANTING and DOING. The decision to DO or to merely DESIRE is the difference between actually achieving the life of your dreams or just idly standing by hoping it will magically happen all on its own.

Most of us have heard of or even tried Law of Attraction techniques or read books like The Secret which suggest that if you visualize what you want it will manifest into reality. Well, I hate to burst your bubble of belief in something that just plain isn’t the truth. Yes, visualization and Law of Attraction practices can add value to your journey to success, but no amount of conjuring up desire in whatever format will ever take the place of acting on that desire. Plain and simple: Your success or failure in achieving your dream life or goals will require you to DO and to DO A LOT and CONSISTENTLY. That’s the honest to God Truth. The other big truth is this – you can have it all. Each and every one of us can achieve the life of our dreams. There are no limits to what you can achieve if you dream it, believe it and then go out and do what you have to do to get it. No big mystery. No big secret. The keys to the kingdom of success is one simple strategy: take consistent action no matter what.

Here are the 10 Deadly Signs you are not on a path to success as a result of not taking the positive action you need to achieve the success that you dream of having:

1. Bored with your life

2. Lonely most of the time

3. Angry and can’t seem to get over it

4. Waiting for something good to happen to you

5. Exhausted for no good reason

6. Have way too much free time on your hands

7. Wishing for the right partner to come along to make your life better

8. Hate going to work each day

9. Do not wake up happy with a smile on your face

10. Regularly indulging in a bad habit even though you know it’s causing harm

You only have one life to live so spend it wisely by using your energy proactively to achieve the life you truly want for yourself. You can chose to either be a victim of life events or a victor over life events by taking consistent action to move you forward in the direction of attaining success for yourself.

If you find you can identify with some or all of the 9 deadly signs, then it’s time for you to make a change by getting into positive action. Remember, what you are currently consistently doing is a reflection of where you will find yourself in ten years from now. Are you happy with that visualization? If not, do things differently to achieve a different result. Say “I DO” to Success and go out there and get it!

In closing, my shocking confession: It was the 80’s and cocaine was the white collar drug of choice. So many people around me were regularly using cocaine. I resisted it for a while before I decided it couldn’t hurt to go along with the “in” crowd. I got sober for once and for all in 1989. The habit that I indulged in took nearly 10 years to kick. Once I did, the magic and miracles of true success began to flow into my life. Addiction of any kind takes over one’s life and any action taken is 1st and foremost centered around drug seeking or using behavior. There is no room for success to occupy one’s life. Any bad habit is like an addiction. It takes over your life and makes it impossible to achieve and/or sustain success. If you are struggling with any bad habit, be determined to quit. Seek help and don’t give up until you achieve the success that you desire.