ON THE COUCH: Shocking Confessions of a Self-Made Millionaire: What’s Wrong with Being a Hardcore Planner?
Ever hear that Yiddish adage, “Man Plans, and God Laughs”? When I first heard that saying I thought it was written by a really, negative person who also had a punishing God concept. I quickly discarded the age old “wisdom” as not applicable to me and continued on being and doing my Type A workaholic behaviors (back in the day).
Hi, my name is Linda and I’m a recovering hardcore planner. LOL! No, seriously, this is a very important principle of success to pay attention to, especially if you’re an overachiever. Overachievers tend to plan, plan, plan and back-up plan. That was me! I would freak out if I lost my Franklin planner (I’m showing my age here—grimace) or left it at home, or god forbid, Franklin Covey ran out of stock and I had to wing it.
I clearly remember the turning point when I realized I was not helping, but rather, hurting myself with this unrelenting habit of having to stick to the plan and achieve the desired outcome or call myself a loser for not being able to make it happen. I had this blinding moment of clarity that my unwillingness to accept the reality of the facts in front of me was a rigidity and inability to let go and trust in the organic flow of where I was meant to go, grow and succeed.
Here’s How to Let-Go and Let God, the Universe or Life Help Guide You to Succeed Beyond the Plans You’ve Made:
1. Accept the reality that you won’t ever know in advance how it will go or turn out when you make plans.
2. Trust yourself that you do have the strength, courage and intelligence to make necessary adjustments to your plans on an as needed basis on your journey to success.
3. Give yourself the permission to cancel a plan if it reveals itself to be against your core beliefs, values or is harmful to your wealth or well-being.
4. Don’t make plans just because that’s what “you’re supposed to do” or to fulfill the need to have “to do” something.
5. Only make as many plans that your intuition, innate intelligence, rational analysis and spiritual practice reveal that is necessary to grow and nurture yourself in healthy constructive ways.
“Surrender to what is. Let go of what was. Have faith in what will be.”
We can’t control life, but we can control our perspective, attitude, thoughts and actions. We can learn to accept the uncertainty of life and have faith that the journey is organically leading us to our highest and best destiny. We can make it an easier, softer, more exciting and rewarding journey by learning how and when to let go.
Be assured, you are not a failure and your future is not fatal should you decide to change your plans in order to embrace the flow of life.
What will you decide? To be flexible and go with the flow or remain inflexible and insist it’s your way or no way? I can tell you from personal experience, the latter makes life harsh and harms your ability to achieve the fulfilling life and destiny that is meant for you to have.
In Closing My Shocking Confession: I worked on this multi-million dollar high profile deal for years. All sides wanted it to work out. Everyone was putting in maximum effort. And yet, at every turn we were presented with a new obstacle. I was determined not to give up on the deal. It was life-changing money to me. I was representing both sides. Both sides were emphatic that they should have it their way on the deal breaker contract terms. Neither side could or would budge. I had the aha moment that it was time to let go. Or was I just tired of the arguing and failing to bring the deal to fruition? I dug deep within myself and realized it was time to walk away. The parties were too rigid, and I was wasting my valuable time and energy. I took my $10M in financing with me and moved on. And, to this day (years later) that seller still hasn’t closed a deal with anyone. And, through this letting-go, I was led to start an entirely new business which has been far more rewarding and giving me a life that I love.