Find Balance as an Entrepreneur: Learn the True Definition of Success

Find Balance as an Entrepreneur: Learn the True Definition of Success

You can find balance as an entrepreneur if you understand the true definition of success.

I believe in a model of success that hasn’t been applied before, and once you learn it, you can achieve a balance of wealth and well-being.

In the past, there has been no universal definition of success that is holistic and takes the whole person into account. This results in a focus in one area only – such as making money or being of service.

I have worked with a Wall Street executive who dedicated his life to creating wealth, but near the end of his career felt emotionally and spiritually bankrupt. Despite his wealth, he felt like a failure.  On the other end of the spectrum is a woman who had worked directly with the Dalai Lama – a spiritual guru – but she was unable to continue her valuable work because she had no money.  They were extremely successful in one aspect of their lives but could not sustain it. They were either wealthy and unhappy, or well-adjusted but unable to support themselves financially.

If you’d like to learn more about a balanced achievement of wealth and well-being, and understand the definition of success as it applies to the whole person, please listen to this Forbes podcast where I share my ideas, along with other members of the Forbes Coaches Council:

Unlearn What You Have Learned, Focus, & Find Balance

Find out more about:

  • The four cornerstones of success and developing habits to nourish each one
  • The skill of unlearning old habits and proficiencies in order to replace them with new ones
  • Training your brain to overcome moments of overwhelm and distraction

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Learn more about broken definitions of success.

ON THE COUCH: Shocking Confessions of a Self-Made Millionaire:  #1 Personal Growth Hack for Wealth Creation

ON THE COUCH: Shocking Confessions of a Self-Made Millionaire: #1 Personal Growth Hack for Wealth Creation

Almost every person on the planet wants to be rich. However, not everyone is willing to put in the necessary work to get and stay rich.

Even if you win the biggest lottery in recorded history, you’ll have to learn new ways of being and doing to effectively manage, sustain and grow your wealth. Without growing your knowledge and changing certain habits, you simply will not be fit for wealth.

What I’m about to tell you isn’t mere conjecture. It is not only something that I’ve personally learned and lived the hard way but have borne direct witness to this truth as a veteran entrepreneur and success coach who has worked with people across the globe from all walks of life.  From execs on wall street, to a gang leader to those behind bars, it is a hard-proven fact that if you don’t know yourself and continue to grow yourself, you won’t be fit to achieve wealth or well-being.

I’m going to share with you the #1 growth hack for becoming fit to be rich. And, when I say #1, I mean it is the TOP PRIORITY.  Many will tell you otherwise. They’ll tell you to go to your CPA, a wealth manager or learn how to invest in the stock market or other commodities. But, if you do not do this first and foremost, you’ll be putting the proverbial cart before the horse. You’re the horse, and you need to be a thoroughbred who is well trained to be strong enough to pull the cart full of wealth behind you.

The #1 Wealth Building Growth Hack is to regularly and routinely take a fearless character assessment of yourself.  This means putting pen to paper (old school) and rigorously being honest with yourself in admitting your character deficits.  This is a practice that one can’t afford not to adopt. For every unknown character deficit or flaw that you would prefer to continue to be in denial about, will become a deficit on your financial balance sheet.

It’s a hard truth that great wealth takes great strength and that strength comes from within not from outside of oneself.

Personal Growth Hack for Wealth

Here Are the Top Seven Questions to Answer When Doing Your Assessment:

1. What is my biggest character strength?

2. What is my biggest character weakness?

3. What can I do to expand on my biggest strength?

4. What can I do to convert my biggest weakness into a strength?

5. A character trait I’m exhibiting lately that I don’t like, and I’d like to change is_________.

6. 1 truth about myself that I’d rather not admit and am resistant to change right now is______.

7. The 1 criticism I’ve heard multiple times from others about my behavior is ___________.

This is an exercise in self-love not self-loathing. Increased wealth and well-being comes from self-actualizing the highest vision of our most evolved selves. And, it is the way of the peaceful, loving, compassionate, giving wealth warrior.

In Closing My Shocking Confession:

I couldn’t believe all the stress and problems I was having with people! Seemed like everything I was doing was turning into a big endless stream of problems. I was worn out from dealing with people who were wasting my valuable time, energy and money.  Why, oh why was this always happening to me?! I had to take a time out to journal out my frustrations! I got my trusty journal out and began to write a stream of woes me words that filled up many pages. Then, something mysterious happened. I felt compelled to go back and read what I wrote and that’s when it happened…I experienced a big aha moment. I saw a pattern emerge from the stories contained in the pages. And, it gave me pause and I had to ask myself: “Linda, what’s your part in all of this?”. The glaring truth emerged. I was impatient and expected things to be difficult. There it was. There I was. Getting in my own way and causing myself and others unnecessary strife. The truth has set me free.

 

ON THE COUCH: Shocking Confessions of a Self-Made Millionaire:  Are You Really Present for Success? Take the Quiz

ON THE COUCH: Shocking Confessions of a Self-Made Millionaire: Are You Really Present for Success? Take the Quiz

Time Management is hailed as the one of the major keys to success. And yet, I’ve long ago discovered that how you manage your mind is far more important than how you manage your time. If you can’t take control over your thoughts, then any effort at time management is going to be ineffectual.

Focus is about being in the present moment. The degree of focus that one can achieve is directly related to one’s ability to manage their mind. Those with the greatest capacity to manage their thoughts, especially putting at bey intruding thoughts, achieve the greatest degree of focus and are the ones that attain great success.

For a long time, I believed the concept of “being in the now” was too new agey of a concept that gave us all a scapegoat for not taking responsibility for having to think through and make tough decisions on events in our lives that need to be made in advance. I felt the concept robbed us of our ability to think outside of the box because it kept us in the box of the present moment, failing to transport our mental capacities to another dimension beyond the here and now.  But, what I “now” (pun intended) know is that being mentally strong enough to control being present in the now, is having the mental prowess to become a world class success.

My earlier belief that it was a free-pass on taking responsibility for one’s life, came as I witnessed many people who used the concept as an excuse to avoid the realities of their lives. The decision about what you are going to do at any given moment (either to be responsible or irresponsible) is a personal choice, which either choice sets you up  to cop out of your responsibilities or take charge of your life.

Take this Quiz to Find Out If You’re Copping Out or Opting in to Being Present for Success:

1. Does “going with the flow” mean that you don’t have a plan for your day?

2. When “in the moment” do you frequently have intruding thoughts?

3. Do you sometimes “come to” and realize you narrowly avoided a mishap?

4. When immersed in a task at hand and an unexpected event happens to disrupt your focus, does it derail you from being able to remain calm, rational and able to complete the task at hand?

If you’ve answered yes to at least one of the questions above, it means it’s time to practice upping your mental prowess abilities to allow you to be more fully present to the achievement of maximum wealth and well-being.  Notice that I say “practice”. It’s just like batting practice. You show up, you practice hitting the ball and when you miss, you don’t give up. You look at how you can do better next time. And, you keep showing up for batting practice, no matter how good you get, because you know there’s always going to be another big game ahead and you’d better be prepared to be at your best.

In Closing My Shocking Confession: Ironically, I had planned to pen a different closing confession. But, as I sat down to write this blog, I lost all power in my house and neighborhood. Then, the helicopters and ambulances started to roar around me. It’s now been over two hours with no power. It’s very cold in here. I have no heat. Everything in the fridge is melting. And, just now the power on this laptop is about to drain completely out. I have maybe a minute left to finish here before shuts down. When the power went out, I initially ran amok trying to call utility company, family, emergency services, etc. Then I caught myself…I thought, well, I can panic, get stressed-out, and pack ice boxes, or I can sit here and use the quiet to write my blog as I had planned.  I sat down and began to write. I still have no power.

ON THE COUCH: Shocking Confessions of a Self-Made Millionaire: Convert Your Losses into Wins for Ever Lasting Success

ON THE COUCH: Shocking Confessions of a Self-Made Millionaire: Convert Your Losses into Wins for Ever Lasting Success

Happy New Year! I’m determined to make this my most successful year ever! How about you?

No matter how much success or lack of success you’ve achieved up to this point, there is always a way forward to expand your wealth and well-being. But, expansion takes introspection, and if you’re not willing to go to any lengths to grow yourself, how can you possibly believe you’re going to increase your wealth and well-being? It’s magical thinking to believe you’ll get that which you want and haven’t yet gotten, by doing the same ole’ things. To get what you want, you must do something different. And, your own happiness and success is 100% your full responsibility, not anybody else’s.

The New Year is always a good time to take a fearless personal inventory of yourself to realistically determine what new behaviors and habits you need to do to achieve the success that you want in 2018 and beyond.

One immediate way to enter the new year and to shift your attitude to a success mindset is to begin to see every single outcome as an opportunity to increase your success. You see, defeat only becomes failure if you accept it as such. Defeat is an opportunity waiting to be transformed into a bigger success than if you had achieved victory the 1st go around—that is if you know how to convert your losses into wins.

Here Are the Top Four Ways to Convert Your Perceived Losses into Even Greater Wins:

1. Attitude is Everything: Adopt a winner’s attitude about success by understanding that you will win some and lose some. The uber successful know that it’s not whether they win or lose that counts, but how they handle both scenarios that will determine the amount of sustainable success they’ll be able to achieve going forward. Have an attitude of grace, gratitude and a commitment to extract the growth opportunity in every win or loss and you’ll succeed beyond your expectations.

2. Drop the Blame Game: Blame is a total waste of valuable energy, that time spent there, only delays your time frames to your next win. Take the hit, grab the gold in what the situation revealed and move into renewed action.

3. Use Hindsight as a Valuable Tool: All positive action starts with assessment. Use rational analysis rather than self-loathing to evaluate what you’ve learned, what you’ll do differently or additionally next time around. Seeing hindsight as an asset and roadmap to your next win will make the assessment a positive experience.

4. Be a Long-Term Player: Everyone wants to be a long-term player, but not everyone has the long-term player play book. Only the grateful, graceful, good sportsmanlike behaved, and compassionate person (who truly cares about everyone’s success), will become a successful long-termer. Those who don’t, won’t or can’t, simply will not be able to sustain success in the long-run.

Be a good sportsman and have a successful yearIf you can honestly say that you went all in it to win it, regardless of the perceived outcome, you’ve won. Be truthful with yourself in assessing if you gave 100% commitment to the process and if not, don’t beat yourself up. Use the valuable insight gained to grow your success going forward. That’s what winners do.

We are perfectly imperfect human beings. But, if you continue to do the interior work by taking fearless personal inventory, you will continue to grow yourself and your ability to expand your everlasting wealth and well-being.

In Closing My Shocking Confession: I was looking for a company to place a very large order with. There were a handful of companies who threw their hat in the ring to compete to win the bid. I was one-third the way through the selection process, when a company who was one I had initially reached out to, finally came forward. Though late on the scene, the executive was very personable, communicative, informative and within competitive market cost range. It finally came down to choosing between the late-comer and the first-comer. The first-comer had earned an early advantage that the late-comer just wouldn’t be able to make up in the time frames I needed. Once I advised the late-comer that I had decided to go with his competitor, but that I would be awarding another contract next quarter, the exec dropped me like a hot potato – no reply.  In hindsight, the late on the scene action was a tip-off of the type of unsportsmanlike conduct that would later be revealed. He not only lost once, but lost all my business going forward.

ON THE COUCH: Shocking Confessions of a Self-Made Millionaire: 8 Steps to Making Your 1st Million

ON THE COUCH: Shocking Confessions of a Self-Made Millionaire: 8 Steps to Making Your 1st Million

Those who have earned their 1st Million didn’t have becoming a millionaire as their goal. Instead, their goal was made up of more than making money, it was made up of a burning desire to actualize into reality the thing that would add value into the everyday lives of everyday people.

“If we work together, we’ll lower the cost of living for everyone…. we’ll give the world an opportunity to see what it’s like to save and have a better life.”
Sam Walton, Founder of Walmart

We’ve all heard it a million times, that to succeed, one must 1st have a mission statement. While this remains a truism, what I see happening more and more, is that entrepreneurs are crafting mission statements more for marketing and press purposes than for a personal representation of their vision and roadmap to achieving its goal. There appears to be more of a priority placed on making money than making a difference. And, as much as making money is an imperative to taking care of one’s basic needs for security, growth and to make a broader impact in the world, the #1 imperative is to focus on manifesting your vision over that of manifesting millions. When one keeps good priority order, the money will follow.

“To make a contribution to the world by making tools for the mind that advance mankind.”
Steve Jobs as quoted by The New Economist, 1980

I encourage you, right here and now today, to take a hard look at your existing mission statement. Is it an authentic personal reflection of your own divinely inspired vision and burning desire to add value to the lives of those you desire to serve?

Once you’ve taken a hard look at your mission statement, and made any necessary amendments, you can then move forward with incorporating the following into your daily mindset and actions to speed your way to making your 1st million:

8 Steps to Making Your 1st Million

1. Have a Well-Defined Major Purpose: A well- defined purpose is one that clearly identifies your unique role in the world, the purpose for your life, and the purpose for the money you will acquire.

2. Prioritize Increasing the Wealth and Well-Being of Others: Use this as your #1 driving force and define and deliver a system to accomplish it.

3. Give Yourself Permission to Experiment: Understand that some of the worlds most successful innovations came after vast experimentation. Allow yourself to try different modes and models until you find the one that you know in your gut is the right road for you to take.

4. Seek to See What’s Not There: Having the vision to see what’s not in existence is what creates magical innovations that change the lives of all humanity. Get in the practice of asking yourself “What’s missing? What’s not being done?”.

5. Do Your Homework: Research, Compile Data, Analyze, Plan and Then Act: Make a regular practice to research, develop and deploy.

6. Start Saving to Invest ASAP: Always seek to save to invest, invest as soon as you can, and on an ongoing basis. However, do keep a strong cash on hand supply. Do not over-extend.

7. Trust Your Instincts and Let Them Lead You: You can seek and listen to expert advice, but never go against your gut instincts or go against your better judgement or values.

8. Diversify and Take Calculated Risks: You simply will not become a millionaire if you don’t invest, take calculated risks and diversify. However, diversify only into industries that you have gained a level of knowledge and expertise in.

In Closing My Shocking Confession: Everyone predicted I would fail at being a real estate broker because I regularly advised prospective clients to hold rather than sell. Yep, that was me. Turning away business and walking away from guaranteed money in the bank. I had one extremely large deal that was a 7-figure commission due me. The deal went all the way through to last two days of due diligence when my client told me they were going to move forward, go hard with their deposit and close. I had just found out the books of the property had been cooked. I was 15 days away from a 7-figure bank deposit. What did I do? I told him to cancel the deal. I may have lost that money, but I had held dearly to the practice of putting my client’s wealth and well-being as a #1 priority over my own pocket book for many years and it’s what allowed me to build a global network of investors who trust me and to become a self-made millionaire.