Being offered a new job may sound wonderful. But there’s always more to think about than the salary and benefits offered.
Are you sure the job – and the company – is the best fit for you? What do you need to know before making your decision?
That question was recently put to members of the Forbes Coaches Council, and we offered our first-hand insights.
Whether it’s during the interview or after an offer has been made, ask these 13 essential questions and make sure the answers match your goals and values to ensure your success.
Read the full article at Forbes.com.
Every single person on this planet, at some time or another, has created a goal and failed at achieving it. It’s a fact of life. You can’t hit a home run every time, but you can certainly succeed at winning the game provided you keep getting back up at bat and learn from the experience. I know, it is easier said than done. It hurts to fall down. It’s not always easy to pick yourself up and get back in the game.
Having the ability to pick yourself up, one more time, takes personal strength—sometimes herculean strength at that. Sometimes, in the pursuit of success or in others pursuit of success, we get hit so hard we don’t think we will ever get the strength to pull ourselves up again to get back in the game. And, sometimes, we have no choice but to raise ourselves up, regardless of extreme exhaustion, battle wounds and fear, in order to continue to fight for our lives.
The degree of success that one can achieve in one’s lifetime is directly related to how many times one is able to get up and carry on after a fall.
“It’s hard to beat a person that never gives up.” – Babe Ruth
Get the endurance you need to persevere and succeed in the face of any, and all failures, challenges and stumbles on your path to extreme success:
The Six Endurance Steps to Extreme Success
1. Practice Delayed Gratification: I can’t say enough about the power of practicing self-restraint. It builds extreme mental, physical, spiritual and financial strength. Start practicing by using impulse control. Wait to say or buy something that doesn’t have to be said or bought right away. Wait a bit after 1st hunger pang, and delay doing something that you want to do that really isn’t important to your responsibilities or progress.
2. Build a Strong Mind and Body: Practicing step 1 above will help you gain mental strength. Add to that regular physical exercise and sound nutrition that supports a strong mind and body. Incorporate “Live” foods in your diet to live stronger and longer. Live foods are raw foods.
3. Let Go of False Pride: Train yourself not to be concerned what people think of you and your successes or failures. False pride is ego that leads to poor decision making and may make permanent defeat out of a temporary fall. Humility is a window to “seeing” what next to do and how to do it better.
4. Focus on the Growth Opportunity in Every Situation: There is no situation that is devoid of benefit and opportunity to succeed on a higher level than imagined prior to a fall. Practice looking for every seed of benefit in every situation, encounter and event taking place in your life.
5. Don’t Get Mad, Get Even: Sometimes, bad people do bad things and you feel justifiable anger. Don’t let the anger push you to say, behave and do things out of your character. Stay true to you and understand the best revenge is succeeding again all odds.
6. Practice Faith: We’re only human and sometimes circumstances can be so overwhelming that we get knocked down and stay down longer than we’d like or we can’t solve the problem ourselves and have no one to turn to. This is where having a daily practice of faith will serve and save you. It will provide you the solution, strength, comfort and courage needed to carry you through to success.
In the end, success is not how many times you fall or fail, but how many times you get back up. I can tell you with utmost certainty that there is no failure, no challenge or no fall from grace, that can take you down and keep you down. Only, we ourselves, have the power to allow that to happen.
In Closing My Not So Shocking Confession: I’ve been practicing all of the six steps above on a daily basis for quite some time now. They’ve literally saved my life (yes, medically speaking), financially, and allowed me to self-create and sustain a life of wealth and well-being against all extreme odds. But, there was a time when I didn’t know that a successful life was a series of picking yourself up and never allowing yourself to stay down.
This past Sunday, I went out to run my regular route. It was a gorgeous day. There were more people out at that early hour enjoying the day than normal. There were many families out with their kids in strollers and everyone was smiling and happy. Suddenly, right in front of me, a small boy, no more than six years old, falls down hard off his bike onto the hard asphalt. He looks embarrassed, terrified and about to cry. As I run past him, I begin to clap my hands in approval and say “Good job! Get up and keep going!”. The threat of tears vanquished, he pushed himself up off the ground, got on his bike and pushed forward. His parents gave me a grateful smile as I ran past to finish my jog.
How wonderful it would be if we all learned to applaud the power and purpose of enduring the fall…especially at an early stage.
Digital overload can prevent us from living our lives fully and doing our jobs to the best of our ability. It results in reduced productivity and engagement at the office and at home. In addition, it’s costly to businesses and the economy.
How can you minimize overwhelm and maximize your focus, energy and ability to achieve success?
I was asked to answer this question along with 14 other members of the Forbes Coaches Council.
We share our thoughts on this important topic in this article on digital overload at Forbes.
People often mistake calm people for being passive, lazy or non-engaged. It’s their lost opportunity, because more than likely, they are interacting with someone who has learned and earned one of the top five secrets to success which is ….drum roll please…CALMNESS.
You see, calmness takes a massive degree of self-control and self-control is the grand master of character traits that the world’s greatest leaders and the super successful have disciplined themselves to use to get and stay successful. And, calmness is an attribute that benefits virtually each and every one of us, regardless of what success we’re going after be it sports, spiritual, political, physical, financial or entrepreneurial.
“Success Isn’t Measured By Money Or Power Or Social Rank. Success Is Measured By Your Discipline And Inner Peace.” Mike Ditka
I wanted to write this post because more than ever, we are being challenged to remain calm, carry on to claim maximum success as individuals, a nation and in order to sustain as the Country having the most positive impact and influence globally. Never more than before, are we constantly being bombarded with information from so many sources on so many devices. Never more than before, we need to remain calm when we receive all of these and one’s own personal life’s experiences. Never more than before, we need to consciously decide what we want to engage in, why and when and then remain calm before, during and after any engagement.
I’m not being preachy at all, I’m merely stating the truth about how to accomplish Maximum Success amid today’s global challenges, which is that inner calmness insulates you from chaos and confusion delivering you external success. The one who masters calmness, can and will achieve and succeed against any and all odds.
Here are the Top Five Practices to Get You Calm to Carry On to Achieve Maximum Success:
1. MENTAL: Keep your mind calm and focused by only engaging with people, events, sources and in activities that directly relate to accomplishing your major goal and eliminate or minimize those sources that cause chaos, confusion and negativity.
2. PHYSICAL: The basic body wise tenants are the most powerful here: Don’t over consume or under consume sleep, food and exercise. Eat foods that are life-giving and not energy draining. Get the amount of sleep that is ideal for you, and do engage in some form of exercise.
3. SPIRITUAL: Pray, meditate, join a healing circle, chant, or read spiritually uplifting books. Do find and connect to a supreme power source of your own choosing.
4. FINANCIAL: Don’t take any risks that you can’t afford to take. Be realistic. Don’t make financial decisions from a place of desperation. Trust the right thing will come at the right time.
5. ENVIRONMENTAL: Spend time in nature away from all your devices, social media, the news and material things.
Minimize your world by engaging in only those things that positively contribute to the advancement of your becoming more internally at peace. To become a master maker of riches and achieve Maximum Success, everything you do must be done with peace.
In Closing My Shocking Confession: The great recession had its challenges for all of us. My challenge was that all of a sudden, I became a target for many people and companies who knew what I had and wanted to take it from me by any illegal means possible. I had never experienced such blatant greed and dishonesty in my life. I guess I was naïve. I really didn’t want to believe people could be that way. I had no recourse but to defend myself. The “defending myself” was having to do so amid massive chaos, confusion, lies, character assassinations and regularly being trespassed upon at my own home. It became a 24/7 battle ground. I was an inch away from losing everything to cheaters and liars. I had seven attorneys around the clock “helping me”. Financial, mental, physical and spiritual collapse was a real and present danger. But, I refused to break down. And then…I won!! And, I won with integrity, honesty and a staunch determination not to let the “bad guys” rob me of my calm. I knew that the only way through and to success was to remain as calm as possible by using every and any tool I could to remain calm.
Success is achieved by those who not only have an intent to succeed, but live intentionally every day to make it a reality. Yeah, yeah, we’ve all been over-dosed on the “just visualize it and it will happen” new age philosophy of manifestation. But, I’m here to shout it out to the rooftops that if you stop at visualization, you will not succeed. Merely sitting in an armchair visualizing your dream as a reality devoid of taking action, just won’t get you where you want to be. You must get up out of that armchair, hold that positive vision in your mind’s eye, head out your front door and live out each day by taking intentional action on everything that you can possibly do to realize your vision.
Wikipedia defines intention as: A mental state that represents a commitment to carrying out an action or actions in the future. Intention involves mental activities such as planning and forethought. My point here, being that, if there is no follow through on your mental commitment to take action, then the chain to success becomes broken.
“There are only two days in the year that nothing can be done. One is called Yesterday and the other is called Tomorrow. Today is the right day to Love, Believe, Do and mostly Live”
Living intentionally is how you become a master at crafting and attaining the life you desire. If you aren’t intentionally living your life, you are letting life live you, and that won’t get what you want. It’s the difference between being the victor of circumstances or the victim of circumstances. What will you choose?
Here Are the Top 6 Ways to Live Each Day with the Intention to Succeed:
- Take Control: Run your day, don’t let the day or others run you. Someone else’s emergency, is not your emergency. Most “emergencies” are not emergencies. Keep calm, use rational judgement in deciding if, and when you need to become involved.
- Take Personal Responsibility: Don’t allow yourself to fall into old bad habits. Self-correct immediately if you find yourself slipping. Do not rationalize a slip with deluding yourself by believing: “It’s just one day, nothing bad will happen”.
- Don’t Wing it: Have a plan for your day and prepare for that interview, speech, presentation or meeting.
- Seize Each Day: Act as if today is the last day you’ll ever have the opportunity to succeed. Don’t take any day for granted. Each day is a precious gift waiting to be received.
- Be Fearless: Be bold. Be different. Lead and don’t follow. Live out loud the truth of who you are.
- Use Self-Restraint: Avoid engaging in distractions and in taking action on non-essentials, which are those things that do not directly relate to the accomplishment of your daily prioritized action plan.
Life can change in a blink of an eye. I have a saying: “count to one, and your life has changed forever”. Live each day intentionally as if it’s your last day to take action on having the life you aspire to have tomorrow. In so doing, whatever may come tomorrow, you will have developed the habits and character traits of a champion and will succeed no matter what is or isn’t happening in life and the world around you.
In Closing My Shocking Confession: One day I’m prepped and ready to run both the LA and Boston Marathons. Then, BAM, the very next day, I was diagnosed with life-threatening cancer. The doctors told me I could not run Boston because being on a plane too far away from a hospital could jeopardize my life. I thought about what they told me. Then, I went on to run both marathons. I was strong, I had prepared, I KNEW within me that I would be ok and was determined not to succumb to fear or doing something that was going to rob me of attaining the goal that I had worked so hard to achieve. The “standard” protocol wasn’t going to become my standard. I intentionally lived each marathon day, and every day thereafter, fearlessly living my truth, pursuing my goals and honoring my belief that you don’t need to follow the “norm” to succeed. I have my finishers medals and I’m alive, well and happy.