ON THE COUCH: Shocking Confessions of a Self-Made Millionaire:  The LOVE of Success: The Top I Do’s of Making Success You’ll Love.

ON THE COUCH: Shocking Confessions of a Self-Made Millionaire: The LOVE of Success: The Top I Do’s of Making Success You’ll Love.

Everyone consciously or subconsciously is hoping, wishing and dreaming of having success. But, all to often, in their wildest dreams of success, they neglect to add into the dream criteria that the success be one that will make them feel happy, joyous, free and loving the life they’ve created.

All too frequently, I bear direct witness to those who have created material success and yet have lost that loving feeling for what they’re doing, and that discontent permeates all areas of their lives adversely affecting the quality of their lives, including their ability to be clear and present for LOVE.

“If today were the last day of your life, would you want to do what you are about to do today?” ~Steve Jobs (1955-2011)

Here Are the Seven I Do’s to Creating a Life You’ll Love:

1. Only Engage in Activities that Enhance the Quality of Your Life: In your eagerness to attain success, don’t neglect to take reasonable time out to analyze each opportunity that presents itself to you. Grabbing onto everything and anything that comes your way will only push out your time to success and more importantly, will fail to deliver you a successful quality of life.

2. Don’t Become Too Hungry for Success: Too hungry for success means you will go to any lengths to get what you want. This is often the downfall of many entrepreneurs. It’s when they start making too many sacrifices to get ahead and make mistakes. It often means lowering one’s standards, which results in less than desirable results in all areas of one’s life.

3. Be Discerning Who You Partner With: This applies to all areas of one’s life. If any partnership isn’t one which enhances the quality of your life and inspires you to grow; then it simply isn’t going to nurture you, your success or your happiness. Partnerships should be energizing and not draining.

4. Be Willing to Say No and Walk Away: After seeing warning signs that something isn’t working out and rationally assessing the situation, be courageous in letting go and in trusting that something more in alignment with your values and goals will replace it. Long term success is achieved when you know where and when to cut your losses by giving something up that realistically doesn’t serve to preserve both your wealth and well-being.

5. Have a Clear Definition of Success: Understand that sustainable success is a balanced achievement of wealth and well being through consistently living the truth of your values. Regularly ask yourself if the opportunity in front of you supports the truth of your core values and your overall health, wealth and well being and if it doesn’t –don’t go there.

6. Have Outside Interests: Success is achieved and sustained when one has a balanced life through consistently, healthfully engaging in the four corner stones of success: Mental, Physical, Financial and Spiritual. Overworking creates a out of balance dynamic which only brings dissatisfaction to you and those around you.

7. Have a Relationship with a Higher Power: A life without faith is at peril. Life is constantly filled with change and challenge. To move through them successfully, one needs optimal clarity, calm and courage that only a power greater than oneself can deliver. A faith filled practice provides answers that can’t be accessed without divine inspiration.

 A successful life is one that is filled with love. The love of what you’re doing, who you are sharing your time and energy with, who you’re serving and inspiring and who’s inspiring you. If you’ve lost that loving feeling, it’s time to reconnect to your heart and soul. Then, go out and boldly commit to love again– more deeply–more richly.

 In Closing My Shocking Confession: I had just left an 8-year marriage. It was a tough decision. I’m a fiercely loyal, long term player. The reality of my husband’s inability to be present to himself or to me was one that could no longer be ignored. I tried to fix him because I wanted him to be happy and successful. I was young and back then I thought I could fix those who didn’t want to be fixed. He didn’t want to give up the behaviors that kept him underachieving in all areas of his life. I had to let go. This one experience taught me going forward to see every relationship opportunity for the truth of what it is in it’s present “as is” condition and to assess it for its ability to enhance the quality of my own life and hence the lives of those around me. It also taught me that if I’m not clear about myself, my values and commit 100% to living my truth in every and all circumstances, then I will not be able to live a successful life or lead others to one.

Set Yourself Up For Business Success

Set Yourself Up For Business Success

Getting your business off to a great start for the coming year means dedicating yourself to planning and strategy. But while start-of-year planning is important to business success, you can’t ignore the rest of the year.

Sixteen members of the Forbes Coaches Council, including myself, were asked what business leaders should do in January – and beyond – to set themselves up for a successful year.  Among the suggestions, ideas on:

  • Mapping goals and defining potential wins
  • Understanding key trends that can affect your business success
  • Prioritizing human resources strategies and learning from your staff
  • Improving company culture
  • Focusing on customer needs
  • Carving out time to think
  • Responding and adapting to change
  • Taking a critical look at the past year
  • Developing habits that lead to sustainable business success

Read the full article for a wide variety of tips and strategies on what to do – and what not to do – in the months ahead.

More suggested reading on the topic of business success:

6 Growth Hacks to Consistently Grow Your Success
Convert Losses to Wins for Everlasting Success

 

 

Break Out Of Your Comfort Zone and Make the Sale

Break Out Of Your Comfort Zone and Make the Sale

Often, when confronted with situations that are unfamiliar or stressful, we stay in our comfort zone to shield ourselves. But that personal bubble might be holding you back from achieving success.

To reach our goals, in sales and other areas of entrepreneurial life, it is sometimes necessary to take actions that might seem daunting, rather than exhilarating.  So how can you move beyond your comfort zone and achieve your potential?

I believe the combination of passion and purpose is powerful.  Find out how to use them to soar above any personal discomfort and achieve success. More on this, and 14 other strategies and first-hand insights from members of the Forbes Coaches Council in this article on breaking out of your comfort zone.

Learn how to use valuable strategies including:

  • Problem-focused interaction
  • Authenticity
  • Practice and presentation
  • Setting up systems
  • Understanding ‘no’
  • Changing perspectives
  • Experimenting with approaches

Additional reading you may enjoy: Embracing your Inner Salesperson

13 Sure Signs Your Job Isn’t The Right Fit

13 Sure Signs Your Job Isn’t The Right Fit

How do you know if you’re in the wrong job, or if a new job offer will be a good fit?

Your career goals can change over time, and the wrong job will only delay your success.

There are many signs your job is not a good fit, starting with the company’s values.  Know what a company stands for before you accept employment, and make sure it’s a match for your own beliefs. If your existing employer is no longer living up to the values they had when you started, it may be time to move on. Choosing to stay will only delay your success.

Just surviving in a job isn’t enough. You should be thriving.  Are you constantly bored or having negative feelings about the work you do? Has there been a change in management or company direction? Are you utilizing your strengths?

I shared my thoughts on this topic, along with other members of the Forbes Coaches Council.  Find out our 13 clear signs your job isn’t the right fit in this article on Forbes.

You might also be interested in the top questions to ask before taking a job.

ON THE COUCH: Shocking Confessions of a Self-Made Millionaire:  When All Else Fails…Do This

ON THE COUCH: Shocking Confessions of a Self-Made Millionaire: When All Else Fails…Do This

You’ve spent endless amounts of time, energy and resources on developing that plan for success. It could be that you’ve poured your resources into a plan for a successful long-term relationship, business contract, new job, fund raising or even to hire someone to do some renovations in your home or office.

You think everything is going according to plan, then BAM, something happens outside of your control to derail your plan.  We’ve all been there at one time or other.

What you decide to do amid the deconstruction of your plan (sounds so scary, but that’s how it feels), will be the deciding factor if you will convert the perceived loss into a win and come out of the situation successfully.

Here Are the Seven To Do’s to Convert Failure to Success:

1. Rationally and realistically assess the situation: Emotions get triggered when we don’t get our way. When things go awry, get in a calm state of mind and rationally assess the situation to determine if there is anything that can turn the situation around or if it’s time to put closure on the situation.

2. Take first things first: After the analysis in #1, it’s important to focus and prioritize the most imminent actions you must take, one step at a time, and not try to solve all your problems at once or out of rational sequential order. This ensures you highest chances of success most rapidly.

3. Stand up for yourself, your rights and your truth: If you have been wrongfully injured, stand up for yourself asap and seek the best support to represent your interests. Many fear this will make the situation worse, but the opposite is true. The sooner you take action, the sooner you will be able to maximally protect yourself and your interests and empower yourself to convert a loss to a win.

4. Know when to cut your losses and move on: After assessing the situation, be honest with yourself if the situation is no longer good for your wealth or well-being. Then move up and out with a strategy that is drama free as possible which may mean you may have to cut your losses by giving something up that ultimately serves to preserve your wealth and well-being in the long run.

5. Stay out of ego: When in conflict with others, stay out of ego and refuse to be baited into a power struggle. Ego will kick your butt every time and prevent you from being rational. Ego causes failure, but humility succeeds every time.

6. Always position yourself to maintain self-sufficiency: The mistake so many make, is to put all one’s eggs in one basket and often that basket is outside of one’s control. Don’t box yourself into a corner by turning your power over to just any one person, place or thing. Strive to keep independent and always to be self-sufficient.

7. Don’t give up on your goal: Failure is synonymous for “new beginning”. Those who succeed understand that failure is never permanent unless you let it be. Don’t ever quit on your goal. It will be achieved if you keep on keeping on. The situation, people or places my change, but your goal stays alive.

 The time to quit on your goal is never. Take time to regroup, refresh, restore and then keep on moving forward. That’s how maximum success is achieved.

“I failed my way to success.”  ~Thomas Edison

In Closing My Shocking Confession: As a child, I watched women of my mother’s generation suffer emotionally, physically and financially in many ways—at home, work or out in the world because they had been taught to be subservient and that the world was a patriarchal one. They had no voice, and no way to support themselves. They left or were forced to leave the “security” of their homes often to find themselves penniless and without shelter. It’s heartbreaking. And yet, this is still happening in the world today. And, not just among women. I have strived my whole life to stay empowered by understanding that people are human beings. None of us is perfect and people will fail us from time to time.  But, if we rely on our faith, our own gifts and talents and ask for help, we can overcome any failure and triumph.