There is only one strategy that works to continuously grow your success and that’s through consistently evolving yourself.
As one rises to ever-increasing levels of success, one’s life becomes more complex. There simply are far more decisions that need to be made, new strategies to learn, more demands placed on your time and energy, more people pursuing you, and more energy spent on how to keep one’s life in balance and not lose one’s self in the process.
There is only one asset that one can’t afford to lose and that’s oneself. How then does one, amid the crush of the overwhelming tidal wave of increasing success, ensure that they keep themselves from diminishing themselves thereby diminishing their success or compromising their #1 asset which is themselves? The answer is to have a set of questions that you can routinely ask yourself that will reliably give you an accurate assessment if you are stagnating or growing your success.
“If we’re growing, we’re always going to be out of our comfort zone.”
The Top 6 Success Growth Hack Questions to Routinely Ask Yourself:
1. Am I primarily focusing on having more or becoming more?
Example: You are not spending any time on inner growth, self-reflection or investing in personal development.
2. What can I do to evolve myself to the next level right now?
Example: An honest realization of a character defect that is preventing you from self-growth exhibited through a bad habit.
3. Am I striving daily to maintain a balanced achievement of both wealth and well-being?
Example: Are you taking time to nourish your body, mind, spirit, relationships and effectively managing your money.
4. If I’m being 100% honest with myself, one bad habit I have that keeps me from expanding my wealth and well-being is?
Example: Expecting or allowing others to do for you what you should be doing for yourself.
5. What New habit can I start right now that will get me outside of my current rut and into taking new action to achieve my next level of success?
Example: Stop isolating and get out to new events and meet new people.
6. Am I being honest and true to myself or am I compromising myself and my values to get ahead or get along?
Example: Not being honest or forthright in fear of losing something or someone.
There are two ways to grow. Either you initiate it or outside forces will foist it upon you. By being proactive in routinely growing yourself, when unexpected challenges present themselves, you will be optimally equipped to handle them with grace, dignity, strength and personal power. Most importantly, you will be rock solid in remaining true to yourself while adeptly converting any challenge into an opportunity to grow yourself, your wealth and well-being.
In Closing My Shocking Confession: It’s so easy to blame, point fingers, get frustrated and angry and think the problem is somebody else. And, maybe it is a problem within the other person. But one day, I realized that if I can’t unhook from allowing myself to get so frustrated that it disrupts my peace of mind, then who am I to cast judgement on someone else’s character if I lack self-control? I decided right then and there to practice not getting angry. As silly as it sounds, I had a goal not to swear or get angry before noon each day. I failed a lot. I saw 1st hand how easy it was to trigger my emotions. Did I take out these feelings of anger on the other person? No. And, for a long time, I thought that was good enough. But, I realized that to grow myself, I had to control myself to the next highest level.
Almost every person on the planet wants to be rich. However, not everyone is willing to put in the necessary work to get and stay rich.
Even if you win the biggest lottery in recorded history, you’ll have to learn new ways of being and doing to effectively manage, sustain and grow your wealth. Without growing your knowledge and changing certain habits, you simply will not be fit for wealth.
What I’m about to tell you isn’t mere conjecture. It is not only something that I’ve personally learned and lived the hard way but have borne direct witness to this truth as a veteran entrepreneur and success coach who has worked with people across the globe from all walks of life. From execs on wall street, to a gang leader to those behind bars, it is a hard-proven fact that if you don’t know yourself and continue to grow yourself, you won’t be fit to achieve wealth or well-being.
I’m going to share with you the #1 growth hack for becoming fit to be rich. And, when I say #1, I mean it is the TOP PRIORITY. Many will tell you otherwise. They’ll tell you to go to your CPA, a wealth manager or learn how to invest in the stock market or other commodities. But, if you do not do this first and foremost, you’ll be putting the proverbial cart before the horse. You’re the horse, and you need to be a thoroughbred who is well trained to be strong enough to pull the cart full of wealth behind you.
The #1 Wealth Building Growth Hack is to regularly and routinely take a fearless character assessment of yourself. This means putting pen to paper (old school) and rigorously being honest with yourself in admitting your character deficits. This is a practice that one can’t afford not to adopt. For every unknown character deficit or flaw that you would prefer to continue to be in denial about, will become a deficit on your financial balance sheet.
It’s a hard truth that great wealth takes great strength and that strength comes from within not from outside of oneself.
Here Are the Top Seven Questions to Answer When Doing Your Assessment:
1. What is my biggest character strength?
2. What is my biggest character weakness?
3. What can I do to expand on my biggest strength?
4. What can I do to convert my biggest weakness into a strength?
5. A character trait I’m exhibiting lately that I don’t like, and I’d like to change is_________.
6. 1 truth about myself that I’d rather not admit and am resistant to change right now is______.
7. The 1 criticism I’ve heard multiple times from others about my behavior is ___________.
This is an exercise in self-love not self-loathing. Increased wealth and well-being comes from self-actualizing the highest vision of our most evolved selves. And, it is the way of the peaceful, loving, compassionate, giving wealth warrior.
In Closing My Shocking Confession:
I couldn’t believe all the stress and problems I was having with people! Seemed like everything I was doing was turning into a big endless stream of problems. I was worn out from dealing with people who were wasting my valuable time, energy and money. Why, oh why was this always happening to me?! I had to take a time out to journal out my frustrations! I got my trusty journal out and began to write a stream of woes me words that filled up many pages. Then, something mysterious happened. I felt compelled to go back and read what I wrote and that’s when it happened…I experienced a big aha moment. I saw a pattern emerge from the stories contained in the pages. And, it gave me pause and I had to ask myself: “Linda, what’s your part in all of this?”. The glaring truth emerged. I was impatient and expected things to be difficult. There it was. There I was. Getting in my own way and causing myself and others unnecessary strife. The truth has set me free.
Times have changed, but what hasn’t changed is the age-old practice of making goals, especially at the beginning of each new year.
We’ve all heard the saying “Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result”. And, it’s a very accurate truism.
You want more success than you have today. You have big dreams. You have a vision. You probably even made a vision board (another age-old practice that needs an update) …and you have BIG goals.
Time to stop the insanity of repeating behavior that isn’t giving you the results you want. Here’s the hard truth about goals and vision boards. They don’t work unless you do one thing first and foremost. If you don’t, there is a happenstance chance you’ll get some results from them, but they won’t provide you the real ever-lasting success that you want because they aren’t grounded in the reality that you must do this one thing first.
It’s not your fault! Nobody has taught you the real secret to success. Oh, and by the way, how’s the producer of THE SECRET doing with success in their own life today? See what I’m saying? You literally have not been taught what I’m about to tell you.
I’m not touting myself as some special person with secret knowledge or powers. I learned what I’m about to tell you the hard way. Through years of doing it the wrong way merely by creating vision boards and making goals and visualization.
So, here it is …I hope and pray that you will give it a go. Do and focus only on this one thing to create, attain and sustain ever-lasting wealth and well-being. That one single non-negotiable is relentlessly GROW YOURSELF.
Now, I know we’ve all heard the phrases: transform and heal yourself. That’s all very new agey and yes, they all have merit. It’s just that GROW yourself has a different focus. It focuses not on fixing your broken self, which connotes that you aren’t good enough in your present condition and you can’t progress until you’re fixed. Growing yourself means that you have within you right here and now all the tools and talents within you to achieve success. It means that through self-exploration you are able to mine the richness within you, and release them into physical reality.
The cold reality is that goals fail us most often because if you don’t first and foremost make an internal shift, the external shift will not occur or will fail over time.
Every year, people start diets, exercise programs, classes, etc. And then they stop. Why? Because they haven’t grown themselves first to ensure they are wholly conditioned to sustain the effort required to accomplish their goals.
Here are the Top Five Ways to Grow Yourself:
1. Know your most predominant positive character trait and expand the expression of it in all your endeavors.
2. Know what makes you most reactive and practice non-reactiveness daily.
3. Know the single behavior that is keeping you small. Do what it takes to create new habits that will get you out of that box.
4. Know what makes you feel the happiest and do more of it.
5. Develop a strong faith based practice which will lead you to having a healthy detachment from ego.
Success, is after all an inside job. Keep it upbeat, know your worth and just go ahead and grow yourself and watch how you’ll organically and intuitively be guided to attaining the sustainable health, wealth and well-being you long to achieve.
In Closing My Shocking Confession: I did what all the new age gurus told me to do. I created a vision board, each and every year, and tucked it away from prying eyes in a “sacred space.” I made the goal list every year: my 1st million, this deal or that deal go through, career advancement, mansion on the hill, “the guy”, etc. All the while, I was having a challenging time quitting an addiction. After reading endless amounts of self-help books, I figured maybe they were right. Maybe I was just too inherently flawed and broken to succeed. It all felt so heavy and pathetic. I just couldn’t connect to the victim, self-pity party, put my life on hold till I fix my broken self-route. I sought help from people who saw me not as flawed, but as an inherently healthy and talented person who needed to know herself to grow herself and succeed. They helped me to know myself, stay true to it and to succeed beyond my wildest dreams. Oh, on February 15th, 2018 I celebrate 29 yrs. addiction free.
It’s very common to question yourself whether you’re on the path to success or not. Feelings of “do I really have what it takes or am I just deluding myself” can creep into your otherwise confident and positive mindset. It’s normal. Questioning oneself is a healthy sign. It shows humility and a willingness to see truth and grow.
However, a habit of doubting yourself without taking action on the truth of what the answers reveal, creates stagnation and an unhealthy state of being causing damage to ones’ ability to achieve self-esteem, confidence, personal growth and success.
The most successful people in life are the ones who ask questions. They’re always learning. They’re always growing. They’re always pushing. ~Robert Kiyosaki
Are you a constant self-doubter or a self-doer? The most successful people understand that knowledge without putting it into action is useless. So, even if you are a seeker who is good at asking the right questions and getting answers, without application, the wealth of information received has no utility in helping you to achieve personal and professional success.
Before you go further in this post asking yourself the 7 questions that will reveal if you are on the path to success or failure, first answer these two prerequisite questions:
1. Are you a constant seeker of information who doesn’t put what you’ve learned into action in your own life?
2. Does your mind regularly and unintentionally drift to questioning yourself wherein you immediately push down or avoid addressing the question?
An honest appraisal of your ability to face truth and reality head on is the first step to being able to utilize your innate intelligence to move you out of stagnation and into attaining success in all areas of your life.
Now, if you can honestly answer no to the above or have answered yes and are willing and ready to move out of self-denial and into self-made success, then go ahead and answer the below questions that will further reveal if you’re taking yourself down the path to success or failure.
Ask Yourself These 7 Questions to See If You’re on The Path to Success or Failure:
1. Do I believe I don’t need others to succeed?
2. Do I regularly need to be right and insist on having my way?
3. Do I care more about competing against others than myself?
4. Do I think I don’t need to invest in my own personal growth?
5. Do I feel I don’t have time for rest, friends or family?
6. Do I spend more time nurturing my bank balance than my relationships?
7. Do I fail to express empathy for others struggles, challenges and concerns?
If you’ve answered yes to one or more of the above, then you’ve entered the danger zone. It’s time to hit the pause button and take a time out to remember your values, re-prioritize your activities, and adjust your habits and actions to set you back on track to being a successful person.
Asking without answering is self-denial. Seeking knowledge without application is a waste of valuable energy. Doing without thinking is self-sabotage.
To become a success and stay a success, one must routinely ask themselves what they could be doing better, and then act on the answer.
In Closing My Shocking Confession: I kept asking myself the same one question over and over, and year after year. Was this partnership right for me? And, each year I kept coming up with the same answer. Yes, it’s OK. Why, then was I experiencing more and more discontent? Finally, after a particularly challenging year in this partnership, I thought to question my “It’s OK” answer. What did “Ok” mean? I decided it was time to take it out of my head and get it onto paper. I drew up “the list”. You know the one. The pros and cons list. The result was that the pros side was very long and on the con side—1 single entry. Well, then, it would seem the landslide justified my inaction. But, upon further questioning of each item, what I realized was that the 1 single con represented my most cherished value. I had my answer, and it was time to take action. And, I did.