ON THE COUCH: Shocking Confessions of a Self-Made Millionaire: 10x Recipe for Success

ON THE COUCH: Shocking Confessions of a Self-Made Millionaire: 10x Recipe for Success

Success experts are routinely saying that achieving success is hard. But, that simply is not true.

It’s not what you have to figure out, what you need to do, get or even how you need to go about it that’s hard. There is only one thing alone that can make it difficult, IF, you let it. You see, it’s all within your own power and control, to either let it get in your way or not get in your way.

The one thing that can make it easy or hard to achieve success is fortitude. Without it, the road to success is hard, if not impossible.

www.dictionary.com defines fortitude as: Mental and emotional strength in facing difficulty, adversity, danger, or temptation courageously.

Here are a few examples of how a lack of fortitude manifests itself:

  • When encountering a “no”, you accept it and don’t try to overcome the objection.
  • When told “It’s never been done that way before for a reason”, you accept the statement as fact and don’t investigate further and give up on your idea.
  • When an expert tells you, “It’s just not standard practice and I don’t advise you to pursue that path”, you readily accept their opinion without doing further research and analysis.
  • When encountering early failure you give up, making failure final rather than a sign to approach your goal from a new angle.
  • When in fear, you freeze up and turn your decision making over to someone else.
  • When tempted with a “sure thing” that would take you away from your major goal, you give in to temptation and give up on your own dream.

A person with fortitude, however, does not easily roll over, give up, quit or turn their power over to others.  In fact, they redouble their effort when they are hardest hit. Rejection, naysayers, and challenges cause them to become more determined than ever to find the means and ways to make their dream become a reality.

Fortitude implies a firmness and strength of mind, that enables us to do and suffer as we ought. It rises upon an opposition, and, like a river, swells the higher for having its course stopped”.
Jeremy Collier

How then, does one develop fortitude? To get the mental and emotional strength you need to achieve maximum success in minimum time, you’ll need to take a holistic approach to your life. That means taking care of the whole person that you are, mentally, physically, emotionally and financially.

Here are the top Four Ways to Fortify Yourself to Achieve 10X Success:

1. Reduce Decision Making: We’re bombarded daily with countless opportunities to drain our mental energy. Prioritize your decision making and focus only on what you need to do to advance your goal. Eliminate frivolous and unnecessary decision making.

2. Take Sound Care of Your Physical Body: Aside from the obvious of eating a brain/body smart diet, getting enough rest and exercise; be discerning what invitations you accept and events you decide to attend. Every physical demand placed on your body, is a demand placed on your mind and time. Be sure the expense is supportive of your overall wealth and well-being.

3. Regularly Engage in Spiritual Practices: Faith replaces fear and becomes fortitude. Keep your faith strong, emotions in a rational state and mindset positive through prayer and/or mediation.

4. Manage Your Money Mind Set: Don’t allow your mind to manage you. Take command and control of your mind. When financial fear strikes and takes hold of you, immediately replace it with a positive though, visualize a positive outcome, and then take rational action.

You are stronger than you think. You can do more than you can possibly ever imagine. You can succeed amidst seemingly impossible odds.

In Closing My Shocking Confession:  The renowned doctors told me “It can’t be done and you will die if you do that”. The attorneys told me “If you do that you will lose everything”. People in my industry told me “You’ll never succeed because you’re too honest”. In the face of every mental, physical and financial challenge, I listened, read, researched and then took a time out to turn to my higher power for faith, courage and direction ….and, in every instance, to the shock of many, succeeded against all odds.

ON THE COUCH: Shocking Confessions of a Self-Made Millionaire: 8 Steps to Making Your 1st Million

ON THE COUCH: Shocking Confessions of a Self-Made Millionaire: 8 Steps to Making Your 1st Million

Those who have earned their 1st Million didn’t have becoming a millionaire as their goal. Instead, their goal was made up of more than making money, it was made up of a burning desire to actualize into reality the thing that would add value into the everyday lives of everyday people.

“If we work together, we’ll lower the cost of living for everyone…. we’ll give the world an opportunity to see what it’s like to save and have a better life.”
Sam Walton, Founder of Walmart

We’ve all heard it a million times, that to succeed, one must 1st have a mission statement. While this remains a truism, what I see happening more and more, is that entrepreneurs are crafting mission statements more for marketing and press purposes than for a personal representation of their vision and roadmap to achieving its goal. There appears to be more of a priority placed on making money than making a difference. And, as much as making money is an imperative to taking care of one’s basic needs for security, growth and to make a broader impact in the world, the #1 imperative is to focus on manifesting your vision over that of manifesting millions. When one keeps good priority order, the money will follow.

“To make a contribution to the world by making tools for the mind that advance mankind.”
Steve Jobs as quoted by The New Economist, 1980

I encourage you, right here and now today, to take a hard look at your existing mission statement. Is it an authentic personal reflection of your own divinely inspired vision and burning desire to add value to the lives of those you desire to serve?

Once you’ve taken a hard look at your mission statement, and made any necessary amendments, you can then move forward with incorporating the following into your daily mindset and actions to speed your way to making your 1st million:

8 Steps to Making Your 1st Million

1. Have a Well-Defined Major Purpose: A well- defined purpose is one that clearly identifies your unique role in the world, the purpose for your life, and the purpose for the money you will acquire.

2. Prioritize Increasing the Wealth and Well-Being of Others: Use this as your #1 driving force and define and deliver a system to accomplish it.

3. Give Yourself Permission to Experiment: Understand that some of the worlds most successful innovations came after vast experimentation. Allow yourself to try different modes and models until you find the one that you know in your gut is the right road for you to take.

4. Seek to See What’s Not There: Having the vision to see what’s not in existence is what creates magical innovations that change the lives of all humanity. Get in the practice of asking yourself “What’s missing? What’s not being done?”.

5. Do Your Homework: Research, Compile Data, Analyze, Plan and Then Act: Make a regular practice to research, develop and deploy.

6. Start Saving to Invest ASAP: Always seek to save to invest, invest as soon as you can, and on an ongoing basis. However, do keep a strong cash on hand supply. Do not over-extend.

7. Trust Your Instincts and Let Them Lead You: You can seek and listen to expert advice, but never go against your gut instincts or go against your better judgement or values.

8. Diversify and Take Calculated Risks: You simply will not become a millionaire if you don’t invest, take calculated risks and diversify. However, diversify only into industries that you have gained a level of knowledge and expertise in.

In Closing My Shocking Confession: Everyone predicted I would fail at being a real estate broker because I regularly advised prospective clients to hold rather than sell. Yep, that was me. Turning away business and walking away from guaranteed money in the bank. I had one extremely large deal that was a 7-figure commission due me. The deal went all the way through to last two days of due diligence when my client told me they were going to move forward, go hard with their deposit and close. I had just found out the books of the property had been cooked. I was 15 days away from a 7-figure bank deposit. What did I do? I told him to cancel the deal. I may have lost that money, but I had held dearly to the practice of putting my client’s wealth and well-being as a #1 priority over my own pocket book for many years and it’s what allowed me to build a global network of investors who trust me and to become a self-made millionaire.

ON THE COUCH: Shocking Confessions of a Self-Made Millionaire: MONEY MAKE-OVER: Five Bad $ Habits to Avoid

ON THE COUCH: Shocking Confessions of a Self-Made Millionaire: MONEY MAKE-OVER: Five Bad $ Habits to Avoid

Everyone wants more money, whether they admit it or not. Some people are ashamed to admit they want more because they think it makes them a bad person. It doesn’t make you bad for wanting to improve the quality of your own or others’ lives!  Admit it!  Go ahead and say it out loud “I want more money”!  Own it! And, if you can’t own the fact that you want more, then the deficit of intention and desire is going to cause a deficit in the amount of financial well-being that you can create.

Yes, belief and intention are a strong part of the wealth creation process and you must have both the belief that you CAN have it and the intention that you WILL have it.  But, the most powerful step in wealth creation lies beyond mindset. Positive mindset must move you from thinking to doing the things that support your belief and intention. Otherwise, the disharmony will prevent wealth creation. So, go ahead and master your mind, but then you must mind your habits.

Don’t make a HABIT out of choosing what feels good over what’s actually good for you.”
Eric Thomas

The mind ignites the mind over matter process, but it’s one’s habits that cause the manifestation of one’s goal.

Here are the Five Common Bad Money Habits to Avoid in Your Quest for Wealth:

1. Lack of Impulse Control: You see it and you must have it. You can’t stop yourself from spending when you’re confronted with that yummy thing even when you know it’s not good for you or your pocket book. Avoid places you know trigger spending on what you can’t afford or the things that don’t assist you in attaining your goals.

2. Not Asking for What You Want: Fear of asking for what you rationally and realistically deserve. Understand your worth, conquer your fear and just do it. Those who don’t ask, don’t get.

3. Putting All Your Eggs in One Basket: Entire Countries have gone bankrupt and banks have gone under. Mitigate potential loss, preserve and grow your wealth by diversifying. Don’t wait until “some day when I ..”.

4. Avoiding Reality: I know it’s easier to be in denial rather than to accept the reality of what you have, don’t have and what needs to be done to get control over your financial situation. But, you must face reality head on and get outside help if you need it. Face the facts and reap the rewards.

5. Harmfully Rewarding yourself: I witness this one all the time. Yes, you’ve worked hard and you’ve just accomplished a goal and you deserve to reward yourself. But, rewarding yourself with something that feels good today, yet causes you a loss tomorrow, is not a reward, it’s self-punishment. A reward isn’t something that hurts your financial or physical health.

Make up your mind to give yourself a money make-over by taking a fearless inventory of your top five bad money habits. Write them down. Next, write down the positive new ones that you commit to replacing them with.

Now, go out and prosper! YOU GOT THIS! If I could do it, you can too.

In Closing My Shocking Confession: I like nice things. Period. It’s in my blood LOL. But, I have great impulse control. I do not indulge in any behavior or bad habit that causes me financial or physical harm. That’s just how I roll. Nowadays that is. But, I wasn’t always this way. Quite the opposite. There were those years before I transformed myself, that I thought it really cool and a sign of success to buy that brand-new Porsche that I couldn’t really afford or score some drugs and go out on a 2 day “celebration” bender when I closed deals. Thank God, I figured out that trading what feels good in the moment for what actually is good for me, is the key to success.

ON THE COUCH: Shocking Confessions of a Self-Made Millionaire: The “Nouveau Riche” Entrepreneur

ON THE COUCH: Shocking Confessions of a Self-Made Millionaire: The “Nouveau Riche” Entrepreneur

Nouveau Riche is a term to describe a self-made person who has become wealthy during their own life time rather than through wealth by inheritance.  And yet, rather than being praised for becoming self-made, being “new money” historically has been stigmatized.  The stigmata is that “new money” people are inferior to those coming from old money because they lack sound value systems and exhibit conspicuous consumption.

Oh, my goodness! Has the world changed or what? Someone needs to update all the dictionaries! Nouveau Riche has been redefined and modernized by a new breed of entrepreneurs. Those who through their hard work and dedication to manifesting their vision into reality have revolutionized the world we live in. And, rather than exhibit behaviors of over-consumption and self-absorption, live lives of minimalism and profound giving.

“Wealth is not to feed our egos but to feed the hungry and to help people help themselves.” Andrew Carnegie

Ok, so where am I going with this you may be asking. No longer do we have to hold the belief that wanting to become rich is a bad thing. Many good people perceive that if they desire to be rich, there must be something unspiritual, undesirable or unhealthy about themselves. Or, if they do want to be rich, they are afraid to admit it for fear of being judged.

It’s 2017. A brand-new year!  Now is the time to let go of the outdated belief that wanting to become rich is a negative aspiration. Now is the time, more than ever, to strive to get rich at every level of your existence: mentally, physically, spiritually, and yes, financially. There is no shame in it. There is only positive benefit in it.

After studying the 2016 entrepreneurial stats and the world’s richest entrepreneurs here’s what you need to know in 2017 to get and keep you motivated to become the world’s next “new money” breed of entrepreneur:

1. Age is not a barrier. The fact is that the rate of new entrepreneurs is highest among boomers between the ages of 55-64.

2. Having a passion will automatically drive you. A relentless desire to bring your vision into reality automatically prompts you to take relentless and consistent action.

3. A Lack of Money does not prevent success. Those who persist in pursuing their dreams by taking action every day to manifest it attract the money they need to achieve entrepreneurial success.

4. Not having too much is an advantage. Minimalism breeds focus. Focus is the key to success and attainment of wealth. Eliminating the non-essentials that distract you from your goals gives you the mental prowess needed to stay focused and to innovate.

5. Starting small leads to great achievements. It’s ok to start small. Great wealth doesn’t happen overnight, but it can come expeditiously by being pragmatic and sticking to your vision and values.

“Without passion, you don’t have energy. Without energy, you have nothing.” – Warren Buffett

In closing my shocking confession: My single goal as early as I can recall was to strive to make a difference in each person’s life that I encountered. I did not want to leave a single interaction without hopefully having imparted something positive. That passion is what drove all my actions. Then, to my surprise, I became a millionaire. I kept it secret for a very long time. I kept it a secret because I thought I would be perceived as a bad person for being rich and that it would negatively impact my relationships. What I discovered was, as long as I stayed true to my passion and my values, I was able to preserve the quality of my relationships, maintain balance and humility through self-restraint–all the while having a greater capacity to give more.