ON THE COUCH: Shocking Confessions of a Self-Made Millionaire: Go for Gold or Go Home

ON THE COUCH: Shocking Confessions of a Self-Made Millionaire: Go for Gold or Go Home

Success isn’t finite. It’s an on-going endeavor. It’s sooo not cool for the media, culture and “success gurus” to lead us on to believe that success is the attainment of a singular goal. Success, at least in my playbook, is defined as a lifetime achievement of wealth and well-being.  Any achievement short of that is representative of a step towards that goal and not a final destination.

It may seem daunting to some of you reading this post, that wealth and well-being is a lifetime endeavor. But, the truth is that any achievement of success, organically leads one to have to apply oneself to the preservation, protection and growth of that success achieved. The bottom line is that if you’re not growing your wealth and well-being then you’re depleting what resources you already have. It’s as simple as that.

Here’s the good news. It isn’t as daunting as it may seem at first blush. There is only 1 thing you need to do to ensure that your wealth and well-being becomes a never-ending vein of gold for you to continue to draw from. That thing is (it’s what every gold miner does on a daily basis)— to continuously prospect for gold.

Cambridge Dictionary defines prospecting as: “The activity of searching for gold, oil, or other valuable substances on or under the surface of the Earth”.  And, that is exactly what needs to be done to ensure a lifetime of wealth and well-being. We need to continue to dig deep for the gold in all areas of our lives. We need to keep prospecting for both the internal and external wealth.

And, the truth is that optimal and sustainable health, wealth and well-being comes from becoming inside rich which makes one fit for sustainable success.

“As simple as it sounds, we all must try to be the best person we can: by making the best choices, by making the most of the talents we’ve been given.”
~ Mary Lou Retton, USA gold medalist in gymnastics in 1984

The #1 priority, first and foremost, if you want to have a lifetime of optimal wealth and well-being, is to actively and continuously dig deep within the well of your own being to extract the gold that lies within and then carry it out into the world to prospect for the best like-minded, values aligned prospects to team with to preserve, protect and expand your wealth and well-being.

Will you choose to Go for the Gold for a lifetime of wealth and well-being by becoming a daily prospector?

In Closing My Shocking Confession:  I had just banked a HUGE check. It was enough to last some people a lifetime. I thought to myself “Wow, now I can just relax and coast for years to come.” I had worked super hard to earn that check and it had necessitated me to prospect deep within the well of my own body, mind and spirit to uncover and extract the valuable assets hidden deep within to harness the mental, physical, spiritual and financial strength required to carry me through the challenges along the way. It’s true, the answers always lie deep within ourselves…where to go, what to do, who to choose. After I banked that check, I took two days off to prospect deep within myself for the discovery of my next move. I prayed, meditated, walked out in nature, and on that 2nd night I had a blissful night sleep.  Upon awakening, I began to prospect once again…for my next gold strike. You see, I have a lot I want to give to the world…there is no time to coast.

13 Questions to Ask Before Taking A Job

13 Questions to Ask Before Taking A Job

Being offered a new job may sound wonderful. But there’s always more to think about than the salary and benefits offered.

Are you sure the job – and the company – is the best fit for you? What do you need to know before making your decision?

That question was recently put to members of the Forbes Coaches Council, and we offered our first-hand insights.

Whether it’s during the interview or after an offer has been made, ask these 13 essential questions and make sure the answers match your goals and values to ensure your success.

Read the full article at Forbes.com.

ON THE COUCH: Shocking Confessions of a Self-Made Millionaire: Six Endurance Steps to Extreme Success

ON THE COUCH: Shocking Confessions of a Self-Made Millionaire: Six Endurance Steps to Extreme Success

Every single person on this planet, at some time or another, has created a goal and failed at achieving it. It’s a fact of life. You can’t hit a home run every time, but you can certainly succeed at winning the game provided you keep getting back up at bat and learn from the experience. I know, it is easier said than done. It hurts to fall down. It’s not always easy to pick yourself up and get back in the game.

Having the ability to pick yourself up, one more time, takes personal strength—sometimes herculean strength at that. Sometimes, in the pursuit of success or in others pursuit of success, we get hit so hard we don’t think we will ever get the strength to pull ourselves up again to get back in the game. And, sometimes, we have no choice but to raise ourselves up, regardless of extreme exhaustion, battle wounds and fear, in order to continue to fight for our lives.

The degree of success that one can achieve in one’s lifetime is directly related to how many times one is able to get up and carry on after a fall.

“It’s hard to beat a person that never gives up.” – Babe Ruth

Get the endurance you need to persevere and succeed in the face of any, and all failures, challenges and stumbles on your path to extreme success:

The Six Endurance Steps to Extreme Success

1. Practice Delayed Gratification: I can’t say enough about the power of practicing self-restraint. It builds extreme mental, physical, spiritual and financial strength. Start practicing by using impulse control. Wait to say or buy something that doesn’t have to be said or bought right away. Wait a bit after 1st hunger pang, and delay doing something that you want to do that really isn’t important to your responsibilities or progress.

2. Build a Strong Mind and Body: Practicing step 1 above will help you gain mental strength. Add to that regular physical exercise and sound nutrition that supports a strong mind and body. Incorporate “Live” foods in your diet to live stronger and longer. Live foods are raw foods.

3. Let Go of False Pride: Train yourself not to be concerned what people think of you and your successes or failures. False pride is ego that leads to poor decision making and may make permanent defeat out of a temporary fall. Humility is a window to “seeing” what next to do and how to do it better.

4. Focus on the Growth Opportunity in Every Situation: There is no situation that is devoid of benefit and opportunity to succeed on a higher level than imagined prior to a fall. Practice looking for every seed of benefit in every situation, encounter and event taking place in your life.

5. Don’t Get Mad, Get Even: Sometimes, bad people do bad things and you feel justifiable anger. Don’t let the anger push you to say, behave and do things out of your character. Stay true to you and understand the best revenge is succeeding again all odds.

6. Practice Faith: We’re only human and sometimes circumstances can be so overwhelming that we get knocked down and stay down longer than we’d like or we can’t solve the problem ourselves and have no one to turn to. This is where having a daily practice of faith will serve and save you. It will provide you the solution, strength, comfort and courage needed to carry you through to success.

In the end, success is not how many times you fall or fail, but how many times you get back up. I can tell you with utmost certainty that there is no failure, no challenge or no fall from grace, that can take you down and keep you down. Only, we ourselves, have the power to allow that to happen.

In Closing My Not So Shocking Confession: I’ve been practicing all of the six steps above on a daily basis for quite some time now. They’ve literally saved my life (yes, medically speaking), financially, and allowed me to self-create and sustain a life of wealth and well-being against all extreme odds. But, there was a time when I didn’t know that a successful life was a series of picking yourself up and never allowing yourself to stay down.

This past Sunday, I went out to run my regular route. It was a gorgeous day. There were more people out at that early hour enjoying the day than normal. There were many families out with their kids in strollers and everyone was smiling and happy. Suddenly, right in front of me, a small boy, no more than six years old, falls down hard off his bike onto the hard asphalt. He looks embarrassed, terrified and about to cry.  As I run past him, I begin to clap my hands in approval and say “Good job! Get up and keep going!”. The threat of tears vanquished, he pushed himself up off the ground, got on his bike and pushed forward. His parents gave me a grateful smile as I ran past to finish my jog.

How wonderful it would be if we all learned to applaud the power and purpose of enduring the fall…especially at an early stage.

 

ON THE COUCH: Shocking Confessions of a Self-Made Millionaire: Express Success

ON THE COUCH: Shocking Confessions of a Self-Made Millionaire: Express Success

We live in an era of express everything. Mail, shopping, movies, check-out, check in, food, coffee…give it to me quick, quick, quick. The world is moving at a faster and faster pace. Attaining anything that one wants keeps getting faster and easier. However, for most people, there is that one elusive thing that they badly want more quickly, but they can’t seem to attain fast enough. That one thing is SUCCESS.

I’m here to share a little-known secret how you can achieve express success. If you use this one simple tool, you will see magic, miracles and success begin to flow quickly into your life.

The secret to express success is in using your life as a platform for the expression of your Master Goal. Yes, I know, blah, blah, blah. You’re thinking…. “here we go another generic goal setting blog blurb”. But, hold on. It isn’t that kinda thing. This is the singular thing that the ultra-successful used to see their inventions, grace -inspired visions, and dreams become reality. Mark Zuckerberg’s Master Goal was to “make the world more open and create open information flow for people”.

And, the Master Goal principle is that thing which I, myself, used to achieve the life of my dreams.

“A burning desire that possesses your heart and mind so completely that it literally goads you into achieving.” Napoleon Hill, Think and Grow Rich

Answer These 6 Questions to Discover Your Master Goal and Start Expressing Your Success:

1. The #1 thing in life that continually excites me the most is:

2. If I could instantly become or achieve anything I wanted, it would be this:

3. The single most important thing that I can accomplish during my lifetime is:

4. The most important thing in life is to become:

5. The one intangible thing that my mind involuntarily, consistently and relentlessly thinks about achieving in my life is:

6. The one thing I’m always instinctually and involuntarily driven to do is:

 

Express success is achieved by those who have an unrelenting burning desire to fulfill their destiny. The way to uncover and unleash your destiny is to determine your Master Goal and then live your life as a platform for the expression of that goal.

In Closing My Shocking Confession: As a young teen, I didn’t know what I wanted to be “when I grew up”. I was stressed out about it because all my friends already knew! One wanted to be a doctor, another a dentist. I DID NOT KNOW. I thought something was wrong with me that I didn’t know where I was going. But, I did have one unrelenting drive: To read, study and learn about those people who had dedicated their lives to making a positive impact in the world. I thought about becoming a missionary. But, I knew I had to earn money to support myself. I decided that no matter what I did “for a living”, I’d make being of service my #1 priority. As a young adult, I held many jobs, but remained relentless about living out my Master Goal. Helping others achieve success reigned supreme over making a profit–no matter what. I became a self-made millionaire by 40 making it possible for me to devote 100% of my time helping people achieve mental, physical, financial and spiritual success.

ON THE COUCH: Shocking Confessions of a Self-Made Millionaire: AMBITION: Handle with Caution

ON THE COUCH: Shocking Confessions of a Self-Made Millionaire: AMBITION: Handle with Caution

Ambition is like a loaded gun. It’s a powerful weapon that if not trained to be used correctly can injure the shooter and or anyone within range. The word “ambitious” seems universally to connote a positive personality trait. I’m not sure how that “ambition” term became universally assumed to be a good thing. You know what they say about the word “assume”!

Dictionary.Com defines Ambition as: An earnest desire for some type of achievement or distinction, as power, honor, fame, or wealth, and the willingness to strive for its attainment.

If you read the definition carefully, you will notice it fails to mention anything beyond desire and willingness. There is a whole lotta nadda being said therein.

What is the ambitious persons’ intention for the accomplishment of their achievement? Is it intended to do good and benefit others or hurt certain groups or solely benefit themselves? For the purposes of this blog post, we’re going to assert that readers here have pure and good intentions behind their ambitious goals. Now, having said that, desire and willingness are still not enough. And, even adding taking relentless action, it still is not enough. As a matter of fact, if you are taking relentless massive action on your ambitious goals, you may be running the risk of driving yourself to failure instead of to success.

Here are the Top Twelve Tools to Ensure Your Ambition is Driving You to Success Rather than Failure:

1. KNOW YOUR CORE VALUE. You must have a core value that becomes the basis for driving all your thoughts, words, actions and decisions. Examples: Honesty, integrity, loyalty, dependable, god directed, respect, etc.

2. HAVE A CLEAR AND CONCISE MASTER GOAL. A master goal isn’t something that you choose, it chooses you. It’s that one unrelenting goal that you cannot get out of your mind or quit going after even if you tried. For Gandhi, it was freeing the people of India.

3. DEVELOP HIGH LEVEL OF TOLERANCE. Judgementalism and quick to trigger temperament will cost far more than the expense of the thing in which you are striving to achieve. Long term success is achieved by those who know how to control their emotions and deal with frustrations rationally.

4. ADOPT A HABIT OF SEEING POSITIVE IN ALL CIRCUMSTANCES. There is a seed of positive benefit in every situation. Seek to see it and seize it.

5. TRAIN YOURSELF TO FOCUS. Focus only on what you need to do each day to meet your responsibilities and achieve your master goal. Eliminate all non-essentials.

6. MINIMIZE NEGATIVITY IN ALL AREAS OF YOUR LIFE. Get honest with yourself about the people, habits and behaviors that erode the quality of your time, energy, focus and life. Be brave and let them go.

7. LEARN EFFECTIVE COPING SKILLS AND STRATEGIES. Have a go-to decompress habit that works for you. Examples: Pray, meditate, exercise.

8. BECOME AN EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATOR. Yes, we live in a time of “remote” everything. It is not an effective all around strategy. If you fear talking to or meeting directly with the people you need to advance yourself, just do it or learn how to do it.

9. UNDERSTAND AMBITION DOES NOT REQUIRE AGGRESSION. Aggression is the antithesis of success. A pleasing personality is known to be a key to success. Be assertive not aggressive.

10. HONOR YOUR COMMITMENTS. If you honestly discover you cannot deliver what you promised, then just speak the truth and find a way to compensate the promised party.

11. CONSISTENTLY FOLLOW THROUGH. Sounds so simple, and yet, this is the most common occurrence I encounter on a daily basis when working with businesses, entrepreneurs and clients. Most are good at the front end of connecting, but 90% don’t follow through to deliver at all or effectively.

12. NEVER SACRIFICE YOUR VALUES TO GET AHEAD. There is nothing worth having that is attained by sacrificing your values. It will, at some point in time, come back to bite you hard in the behind.

The main thing, of course, always, is the fact that there is only one of you in the world, just one, and if that is not fulfilled then something has been lost. Ambition is not enough; necessity is everything. Martha Graham

If you combine ambition with purpose, positivity, persistence, pleasing personality, productivity, minimalism, non-violence (self or others), truth, focus, relentless adherence to your values, determination and lastly and most importantly: an urgent and unrelenting need to positively advance the quality of life for all beings; you will drive yourself to success and greatness. You will not need to seek fame, attention or acclaim. It will find you in the footprints you leave behind as you traverse the terrain to your destiny.

In Closing My Shocking Confession: I don’t fall in love easily, but when I fall, I fall hard. The reason I don’t fall in love easily is because I’m super diligent about the person having a matching set of core values and beliefs to mine. Enter picture, the PERFECT guy. I mean, all the right inside rich stuff (I don’t pay attention to the outside stuff). He was the president of his place of faith, believed in God, prayer, family, and giving back. He was super funny, intelligent, in touch with his emotions, creative and highly ambitious. What could go wrong? It still hurts to talk about it. He got slammed with a bunch of big challenges all at once. He was pulled into many disputes that challenged his reputation, creditability and financial security. He was loved by so many. What I didn’t know is that in his struggle to maintain his status, he began to sacrifice his core values hoping that it would save his image and empire. Instead, he lost everything when it got uncovered. Then, he took his own life. Challenges come and go; money comes and goes; even people come and go; all that ebb and flow can successfully be navigated.  But, the loss that often one cannot ever fully recover from is the loss of self, faith and ones’ values. Ambition alone is not enough.