The job of a professional coach is not to hand you all the answers, but rather to guide you towards the right solution for your specific situation. One of the ways a coach does this is by asking powerful questions.
In order to help steer you down the right path to your unique solution, a coach can help you view the situation from another perspective through the use of provocative questions.
Recently Forbes asked members of the Forbes Coaches Council to talk about what powerful questions they use to encourage the breakthrough clients need for success.
Find out my favorite question (it’s surprising that many people have never been asked this) as well as the questions 15 other professional coaches use to help clients reach their potential and achieve their goals.
Read the article on Forbes.com
Times have changed, but what hasn’t changed is the age-old practice of making goals, especially at the beginning of each new year.
We’ve all heard the saying “Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result”. And, it’s a very accurate truism.
You want more success than you have today. You have big dreams. You have a vision. You probably even made a vision board (another age-old practice that needs an update) …and you have BIG goals.
Time to stop the insanity of repeating behavior that isn’t giving you the results you want. Here’s the hard truth about goals and vision boards. They don’t work unless you do one thing first and foremost. If you don’t, there is a happenstance chance you’ll get some results from them, but they won’t provide you the real ever-lasting success that you want because they aren’t grounded in the reality that you must do this one thing first.
It’s not your fault! Nobody has taught you the real secret to success. Oh, and by the way, how’s the producer of THE SECRET doing with success in their own life today? See what I’m saying? You literally have not been taught what I’m about to tell you.
I’m not touting myself as some special person with secret knowledge or powers. I learned what I’m about to tell you the hard way. Through years of doing it the wrong way merely by creating vision boards and making goals and visualization.
So, here it is …I hope and pray that you will give it a go. Do and focus only on this one thing to create, attain and sustain ever-lasting wealth and well-being. That one single non-negotiable is relentlessly GROW YOURSELF.
Now, I know we’ve all heard the phrases: transform and heal yourself. That’s all very new agey and yes, they all have merit. It’s just that GROW yourself has a different focus. It focuses not on fixing your broken self, which connotes that you aren’t good enough in your present condition and you can’t progress until you’re fixed. Growing yourself means that you have within you right here and now all the tools and talents within you to achieve success. It means that through self-exploration you are able to mine the richness within you, and release them into physical reality.
The cold reality is that goals fail us most often because if you don’t first and foremost make an internal shift, the external shift will not occur or will fail over time.
Every year, people start diets, exercise programs, classes, etc. And then they stop. Why? Because they haven’t grown themselves first to ensure they are wholly conditioned to sustain the effort required to accomplish their goals.
Here are the Top Five Ways to Grow Yourself:
1. Know your most predominant positive character trait and expand the expression of it in all your endeavors.
2. Know what makes you most reactive and practice non-reactiveness daily.
3. Know the single behavior that is keeping you small. Do what it takes to create new habits that will get you out of that box.
4. Know what makes you feel the happiest and do more of it.
5. Develop a strong faith based practice which will lead you to having a healthy detachment from ego.
Success, is after all an inside job. Keep it upbeat, know your worth and just go ahead and grow yourself and watch how you’ll organically and intuitively be guided to attaining the sustainable health, wealth and well-being you long to achieve.
In Closing My Shocking Confession: I did what all the new age gurus told me to do. I created a vision board, each and every year, and tucked it away from prying eyes in a “sacred space.” I made the goal list every year: my 1st million, this deal or that deal go through, career advancement, mansion on the hill, “the guy”, etc. All the while, I was having a challenging time quitting an addiction. After reading endless amounts of self-help books, I figured maybe they were right. Maybe I was just too inherently flawed and broken to succeed. It all felt so heavy and pathetic. I just couldn’t connect to the victim, self-pity party, put my life on hold till I fix my broken self-route. I sought help from people who saw me not as flawed, but as an inherently healthy and talented person who needed to know herself to grow herself and succeed. They helped me to know myself, stay true to it and to succeed beyond my wildest dreams. Oh, on February 15th, 2018 I celebrate 29 yrs. addiction free.
Success isn’t finite. It’s an on-going endeavor. It’s sooo not cool for the media, culture and “success gurus” to lead us on to believe that success is the attainment of a singular goal. Success, at least in my playbook, is defined as a lifetime achievement of wealth and well-being. Any achievement short of that is representative of a step towards that goal and not a final destination.
It may seem daunting to some of you reading this post, that wealth and well-being is a lifetime endeavor. But, the truth is that any achievement of success, organically leads one to have to apply oneself to the preservation, protection and growth of that success achieved. The bottom line is that if you’re not growing your wealth and well-being then you’re depleting what resources you already have. It’s as simple as that.
Here’s the good news. It isn’t as daunting as it may seem at first blush. There is only 1 thing you need to do to ensure that your wealth and well-being becomes a never-ending vein of gold for you to continue to draw from. That thing is (it’s what every gold miner does on a daily basis)— to continuously prospect for gold.
Cambridge Dictionary defines prospecting as: “The activity of searching for gold, oil, or other valuable substances on or under the surface of the Earth”. And, that is exactly what needs to be done to ensure a lifetime of wealth and well-being. We need to continue to dig deep for the gold in all areas of our lives. We need to keep prospecting for both the internal and external wealth.
And, the truth is that optimal and sustainable health, wealth and well-being comes from becoming inside rich which makes one fit for sustainable success.
“As simple as it sounds, we all must try to be the best person we can: by making the best choices, by making the most of the talents we’ve been given.”
~ Mary Lou Retton, USA gold medalist in gymnastics in 1984
The #1 priority, first and foremost, if you want to have a lifetime of optimal wealth and well-being, is to actively and continuously dig deep within the well of your own being to extract the gold that lies within and then carry it out into the world to prospect for the best like-minded, values aligned prospects to team with to preserve, protect and expand your wealth and well-being.
Will you choose to Go for the Gold for a lifetime of wealth and well-being by becoming a daily prospector?
In Closing My Shocking Confession: I had just banked a HUGE check. It was enough to last some people a lifetime. I thought to myself “Wow, now I can just relax and coast for years to come.” I had worked super hard to earn that check and it had necessitated me to prospect deep within the well of my own body, mind and spirit to uncover and extract the valuable assets hidden deep within to harness the mental, physical, spiritual and financial strength required to carry me through the challenges along the way. It’s true, the answers always lie deep within ourselves…where to go, what to do, who to choose. After I banked that check, I took two days off to prospect deep within myself for the discovery of my next move. I prayed, meditated, walked out in nature, and on that 2nd night I had a blissful night sleep. Upon awakening, I began to prospect once again…for my next gold strike. You see, I have a lot I want to give to the world…there is no time to coast.
Being offered a new job may sound wonderful. But there’s always more to think about than the salary and benefits offered.
Are you sure the job – and the company – is the best fit for you? What do you need to know before making your decision?
That question was recently put to members of the Forbes Coaches Council, and we offered our first-hand insights.
Whether it’s during the interview or after an offer has been made, ask these 13 essential questions and make sure the answers match your goals and values to ensure your success.
Read the full article at Forbes.com.
Every single person on this planet, at some time or another, has created a goal and failed at achieving it. It’s a fact of life. You can’t hit a home run every time, but you can certainly succeed at winning the game provided you keep getting back up at bat and learn from the experience. I know, it is easier said than done. It hurts to fall down. It’s not always easy to pick yourself up and get back in the game.
Having the ability to pick yourself up, one more time, takes personal strength—sometimes herculean strength at that. Sometimes, in the pursuit of success or in others pursuit of success, we get hit so hard we don’t think we will ever get the strength to pull ourselves up again to get back in the game. And, sometimes, we have no choice but to raise ourselves up, regardless of extreme exhaustion, battle wounds and fear, in order to continue to fight for our lives.
The degree of success that one can achieve in one’s lifetime is directly related to how many times one is able to get up and carry on after a fall.
“It’s hard to beat a person that never gives up.” – Babe Ruth
Get the endurance you need to persevere and succeed in the face of any, and all failures, challenges and stumbles on your path to extreme success:
The Six Endurance Steps to Extreme Success
1. Practice Delayed Gratification: I can’t say enough about the power of practicing self-restraint. It builds extreme mental, physical, spiritual and financial strength. Start practicing by using impulse control. Wait to say or buy something that doesn’t have to be said or bought right away. Wait a bit after 1st hunger pang, and delay doing something that you want to do that really isn’t important to your responsibilities or progress.
2. Build a Strong Mind and Body: Practicing step 1 above will help you gain mental strength. Add to that regular physical exercise and sound nutrition that supports a strong mind and body. Incorporate “Live” foods in your diet to live stronger and longer. Live foods are raw foods.
3. Let Go of False Pride: Train yourself not to be concerned what people think of you and your successes or failures. False pride is ego that leads to poor decision making and may make permanent defeat out of a temporary fall. Humility is a window to “seeing” what next to do and how to do it better.
4. Focus on the Growth Opportunity in Every Situation: There is no situation that is devoid of benefit and opportunity to succeed on a higher level than imagined prior to a fall. Practice looking for every seed of benefit in every situation, encounter and event taking place in your life.
5. Don’t Get Mad, Get Even: Sometimes, bad people do bad things and you feel justifiable anger. Don’t let the anger push you to say, behave and do things out of your character. Stay true to you and understand the best revenge is succeeding again all odds.
6. Practice Faith: We’re only human and sometimes circumstances can be so overwhelming that we get knocked down and stay down longer than we’d like or we can’t solve the problem ourselves and have no one to turn to. This is where having a daily practice of faith will serve and save you. It will provide you the solution, strength, comfort and courage needed to carry you through to success.
In the end, success is not how many times you fall or fail, but how many times you get back up. I can tell you with utmost certainty that there is no failure, no challenge or no fall from grace, that can take you down and keep you down. Only, we ourselves, have the power to allow that to happen.
In Closing My Not So Shocking Confession: I’ve been practicing all of the six steps above on a daily basis for quite some time now. They’ve literally saved my life (yes, medically speaking), financially, and allowed me to self-create and sustain a life of wealth and well-being against all extreme odds. But, there was a time when I didn’t know that a successful life was a series of picking yourself up and never allowing yourself to stay down.
This past Sunday, I went out to run my regular route. It was a gorgeous day. There were more people out at that early hour enjoying the day than normal. There were many families out with their kids in strollers and everyone was smiling and happy. Suddenly, right in front of me, a small boy, no more than six years old, falls down hard off his bike onto the hard asphalt. He looks embarrassed, terrified and about to cry. As I run past him, I begin to clap my hands in approval and say “Good job! Get up and keep going!”. The threat of tears vanquished, he pushed himself up off the ground, got on his bike and pushed forward. His parents gave me a grateful smile as I ran past to finish my jog.
How wonderful it would be if we all learned to applaud the power and purpose of enduring the fall…especially at an early stage.