Being offered a new job may sound wonderful. But there’s always more to think about than the salary and benefits offered.
Are you sure the job – and the company – is the best fit for you? What do you need to know before making your decision?
That question was recently put to members of the Forbes Coaches Council, and we offered our first-hand insights.
Whether it’s during the interview or after an offer has been made, ask these 13 essential questions and make sure the answers match your goals and values to ensure your success.
Read the full article at Forbes.com.
Every single person on this planet, at some time or another, has created a goal and failed at achieving it. It’s a fact of life. You can’t hit a home run every time, but you can certainly succeed at winning the game provided you keep getting back up at bat and learn from the experience. I know, it is easier said than done. It hurts to fall down. It’s not always easy to pick yourself up and get back in the game.
Having the ability to pick yourself up, one more time, takes personal strength—sometimes herculean strength at that. Sometimes, in the pursuit of success or in others pursuit of success, we get hit so hard we don’t think we will ever get the strength to pull ourselves up again to get back in the game. And, sometimes, we have no choice but to raise ourselves up, regardless of extreme exhaustion, battle wounds and fear, in order to continue to fight for our lives.
The degree of success that one can achieve in one’s lifetime is directly related to how many times one is able to get up and carry on after a fall.
“It’s hard to beat a person that never gives up.” – Babe Ruth
Get the endurance you need to persevere and succeed in the face of any, and all failures, challenges and stumbles on your path to extreme success:
The Six Endurance Steps to Extreme Success
1. Practice Delayed Gratification: I can’t say enough about the power of practicing self-restraint. It builds extreme mental, physical, spiritual and financial strength. Start practicing by using impulse control. Wait to say or buy something that doesn’t have to be said or bought right away. Wait a bit after 1st hunger pang, and delay doing something that you want to do that really isn’t important to your responsibilities or progress.
2. Build a Strong Mind and Body: Practicing step 1 above will help you gain mental strength. Add to that regular physical exercise and sound nutrition that supports a strong mind and body. Incorporate “Live” foods in your diet to live stronger and longer. Live foods are raw foods.
3. Let Go of False Pride: Train yourself not to be concerned what people think of you and your successes or failures. False pride is ego that leads to poor decision making and may make permanent defeat out of a temporary fall. Humility is a window to “seeing” what next to do and how to do it better.
4. Focus on the Growth Opportunity in Every Situation: There is no situation that is devoid of benefit and opportunity to succeed on a higher level than imagined prior to a fall. Practice looking for every seed of benefit in every situation, encounter and event taking place in your life.
5. Don’t Get Mad, Get Even: Sometimes, bad people do bad things and you feel justifiable anger. Don’t let the anger push you to say, behave and do things out of your character. Stay true to you and understand the best revenge is succeeding again all odds.
6. Practice Faith: We’re only human and sometimes circumstances can be so overwhelming that we get knocked down and stay down longer than we’d like or we can’t solve the problem ourselves and have no one to turn to. This is where having a daily practice of faith will serve and save you. It will provide you the solution, strength, comfort and courage needed to carry you through to success.
In the end, success is not how many times you fall or fail, but how many times you get back up. I can tell you with utmost certainty that there is no failure, no challenge or no fall from grace, that can take you down and keep you down. Only, we ourselves, have the power to allow that to happen.
In Closing My Not So Shocking Confession: I’ve been practicing all of the six steps above on a daily basis for quite some time now. They’ve literally saved my life (yes, medically speaking), financially, and allowed me to self-create and sustain a life of wealth and well-being against all extreme odds. But, there was a time when I didn’t know that a successful life was a series of picking yourself up and never allowing yourself to stay down.
This past Sunday, I went out to run my regular route. It was a gorgeous day. There were more people out at that early hour enjoying the day than normal. There were many families out with their kids in strollers and everyone was smiling and happy. Suddenly, right in front of me, a small boy, no more than six years old, falls down hard off his bike onto the hard asphalt. He looks embarrassed, terrified and about to cry. As I run past him, I begin to clap my hands in approval and say “Good job! Get up and keep going!”. The threat of tears vanquished, he pushed himself up off the ground, got on his bike and pushed forward. His parents gave me a grateful smile as I ran past to finish my jog.
How wonderful it would be if we all learned to applaud the power and purpose of enduring the fall…especially at an early stage.
We live in an era of express everything. Mail, shopping, movies, check-out, check in, food, coffee…give it to me quick, quick, quick. The world is moving at a faster and faster pace. Attaining anything that one wants keeps getting faster and easier. However, for most people, there is that one elusive thing that they badly want more quickly, but they can’t seem to attain fast enough. That one thing is SUCCESS.
I’m here to share a little-known secret how you can achieve express success. If you use this one simple tool, you will see magic, miracles and success begin to flow quickly into your life.
The secret to express success is in using your life as a platform for the expression of your Master Goal. Yes, I know, blah, blah, blah. You’re thinking…. “here we go another generic goal setting blog blurb”. But, hold on. It isn’t that kinda thing. This is the singular thing that the ultra-successful used to see their inventions, grace -inspired visions, and dreams become reality. Mark Zuckerberg’s Master Goal was to “make the world more open and create open information flow for people”.
And, the Master Goal principle is that thing which I, myself, used to achieve the life of my dreams.
“A burning desire that possesses your heart and mind so completely that it literally goads you into achieving.” Napoleon Hill, Think and Grow Rich
Answer These 6 Questions to Discover Your Master Goal and Start Expressing Your Success:
1. The #1 thing in life that continually excites me the most is:
2. If I could instantly become or achieve anything I wanted, it would be this:
3. The single most important thing that I can accomplish during my lifetime is:
4. The most important thing in life is to become:
5. The one intangible thing that my mind involuntarily, consistently and relentlessly thinks about achieving in my life is:
6. The one thing I’m always instinctually and involuntarily driven to do is:
Express success is achieved by those who have an unrelenting burning desire to fulfill their destiny. The way to uncover and unleash your destiny is to determine your Master Goal and then live your life as a platform for the expression of that goal.
In Closing My Shocking Confession: As a young teen, I didn’t know what I wanted to be “when I grew up”. I was stressed out about it because all my friends already knew! One wanted to be a doctor, another a dentist. I DID NOT KNOW. I thought something was wrong with me that I didn’t know where I was going. But, I did have one unrelenting drive: To read, study and learn about those people who had dedicated their lives to making a positive impact in the world. I thought about becoming a missionary. But, I knew I had to earn money to support myself. I decided that no matter what I did “for a living”, I’d make being of service my #1 priority. As a young adult, I held many jobs, but remained relentless about living out my Master Goal. Helping others achieve success reigned supreme over making a profit–no matter what. I became a self-made millionaire by 40 making it possible for me to devote 100% of my time helping people achieve mental, physical, financial and spiritual success.
Ambition is like a loaded gun. It’s a powerful weapon that if not trained to be used correctly can injure the shooter and or anyone within range. The word “ambitious” seems universally to connote a positive personality trait. I’m not sure how that “ambition” term became universally assumed to be a good thing. You know what they say about the word “assume”!
Dictionary.Com defines Ambition as: An earnest desire for some type of achievement or distinction, as power, honor, fame, or wealth, and the willingness to strive for its attainment.
If you read the definition carefully, you will notice it fails to mention anything beyond desire and willingness. There is a whole lotta nadda being said therein.
What is the ambitious persons’ intention for the accomplishment of their achievement? Is it intended to do good and benefit others or hurt certain groups or solely benefit themselves? For the purposes of this blog post, we’re going to assert that readers here have pure and good intentions behind their ambitious goals. Now, having said that, desire and willingness are still not enough. And, even adding taking relentless action, it still is not enough. As a matter of fact, if you are taking relentless massive action on your ambitious goals, you may be running the risk of driving yourself to failure instead of to success.
Here are the Top Twelve Tools to Ensure Your Ambition is Driving You to Success Rather than Failure:
1. KNOW YOUR CORE VALUE. You must have a core value that becomes the basis for driving all your thoughts, words, actions and decisions. Examples: Honesty, integrity, loyalty, dependable, god directed, respect, etc.
2. HAVE A CLEAR AND CONCISE MASTER GOAL. A master goal isn’t something that you choose, it chooses you. It’s that one unrelenting goal that you cannot get out of your mind or quit going after even if you tried. For Gandhi, it was freeing the people of India.
3. DEVELOP HIGH LEVEL OF TOLERANCE. Judgementalism and quick to trigger temperament will cost far more than the expense of the thing in which you are striving to achieve. Long term success is achieved by those who know how to control their emotions and deal with frustrations rationally.
4. ADOPT A HABIT OF SEEING POSITIVE IN ALL CIRCUMSTANCES. There is a seed of positive benefit in every situation. Seek to see it and seize it.
5. TRAIN YOURSELF TO FOCUS. Focus only on what you need to do each day to meet your responsibilities and achieve your master goal. Eliminate all non-essentials.
6. MINIMIZE NEGATIVITY IN ALL AREAS OF YOUR LIFE. Get honest with yourself about the people, habits and behaviors that erode the quality of your time, energy, focus and life. Be brave and let them go.
7. LEARN EFFECTIVE COPING SKILLS AND STRATEGIES. Have a go-to decompress habit that works for you. Examples: Pray, meditate, exercise.
8. BECOME AN EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATOR. Yes, we live in a time of “remote” everything. It is not an effective all around strategy. If you fear talking to or meeting directly with the people you need to advance yourself, just do it or learn how to do it.
9. UNDERSTAND AMBITION DOES NOT REQUIRE AGGRESSION. Aggression is the antithesis of success. A pleasing personality is known to be a key to success. Be assertive not aggressive.
10. HONOR YOUR COMMITMENTS. If you honestly discover you cannot deliver what you promised, then just speak the truth and find a way to compensate the promised party.
11. CONSISTENTLY FOLLOW THROUGH. Sounds so simple, and yet, this is the most common occurrence I encounter on a daily basis when working with businesses, entrepreneurs and clients. Most are good at the front end of connecting, but 90% don’t follow through to deliver at all or effectively.
12. NEVER SACRIFICE YOUR VALUES TO GET AHEAD. There is nothing worth having that is attained by sacrificing your values. It will, at some point in time, come back to bite you hard in the behind.
“The main thing, of course, always, is the fact that there is only one of you in the world, just one, and if that is not fulfilled then something has been lost. Ambition is not enough; necessity is everything.” Martha Graham
If you combine ambition with purpose, positivity, persistence, pleasing personality, productivity, minimalism, non-violence (self or others), truth, focus, relentless adherence to your values, determination and lastly and most importantly: an urgent and unrelenting need to positively advance the quality of life for all beings; you will drive yourself to success and greatness. You will not need to seek fame, attention or acclaim. It will find you in the footprints you leave behind as you traverse the terrain to your destiny.
In Closing My Shocking Confession: I don’t fall in love easily, but when I fall, I fall hard. The reason I don’t fall in love easily is because I’m super diligent about the person having a matching set of core values and beliefs to mine. Enter picture, the PERFECT guy. I mean, all the right inside rich stuff (I don’t pay attention to the outside stuff). He was the president of his place of faith, believed in God, prayer, family, and giving back. He was super funny, intelligent, in touch with his emotions, creative and highly ambitious. What could go wrong? It still hurts to talk about it. He got slammed with a bunch of big challenges all at once. He was pulled into many disputes that challenged his reputation, creditability and financial security. He was loved by so many. What I didn’t know is that in his struggle to maintain his status, he began to sacrifice his core values hoping that it would save his image and empire. Instead, he lost everything when it got uncovered. Then, he took his own life. Challenges come and go; money comes and goes; even people come and go; all that ebb and flow can successfully be navigated. But, the loss that often one cannot ever fully recover from is the loss of self, faith and ones’ values. Ambition alone is not enough.
This article by Linda Zander originally published on Forbes.com
I was sitting in front of a tenured senior manager of a world-renowned corporation, listening to his management problems. He was having a difficult time motivating his team to meet performance objectives. His overwhelm and panic induced by their underwhelming numbers was palpable. After he exhausted himself of his concerns, he looked directly at me, folded his arms across his chest and said, “Where do I go from here? I’ve tried everything I know.”
To make an assessment and provide positive direction, I proceeded to ask him a few key questions:
1. What is your management style?
2. How do you motivate your team?
3. What is your company’s core value?
4. What is your core value?
5. What is your relationship status with whom you report to?
6. How do you help your employees achieve their personal goals?
He paused. He didn’t have any answers. After a moment, he responded with:
1. “My management style is tough.”
2. “I motivate my team by telling them that they’re not doing well enough.”
3. “I don’t know what my company’s core value is.” (Even he was surprised that after a decade, he still hadn’t known or hadn’t thought to ask.)
4. “My core value is love.”
5. “I report to someone who’s fairly ‘macho.’ I’d like to speak more openly with him about how I feel, but I fear he’ll perceive me as weak.”
6. “I’ve never thought about how to help my employees achieve their goals. Why is that important?”
What his answers revealed is that he didn’t have a clearly defined, non-conflicting set of values to effectively direct and drive his actions.
Given the sheer size and financial strength of this household-name brand, there certainly had to have been a values statement and guiding set of principles in place to have grown it to the global level of success that it had achieved. But, after our session and subsequent talks with other high-level executives in the corporation, I discovered that they had lost sight of them and slipped into a “too big to fail” and “hands-off” corporate mentality.
Adopting one or the other is dangerous, but together, it’s potentially disastrous. A “too big to fail” mentality coupled with intentionally handing off the shaping of corporate culture to franchisees (asserting that if their risks failed, taxpayers would bear their loss) was causing a double-whammy moral hazard. From the top down, the corporation was engaging in exaggerated risk taking, weakening the fabric of the once powerful corporate culture and market discipline that had paved their path to success. Distancing themselves from their founding set of principles, they were now experiencing lost market share.
Shaping and sustaining a corporate culture reflective of a company’s values, beliefs and behaviors starts from the top. Founding leaders should know what their values are and work diligently to create a corporate culture that is aligned with them to be perceived and experienced by their employees and customers. The external success achieved is the result of the internal values that leaders instill.
The above corporation had gotten complacent, and if they didn’t hit the refresh button soon, they’d be facing even greater declining profits and brand erosion.
To be a highly effective and successful leader one must:
1. Have a clear set of non-conflicting values in place driving every communication, behavior and action.
2. Align themselves with individuals and organizations with like-minded values.
3. Never lose sight of your values regardless of challenges or how successful you become.
4. Help others to achieve success.
Start by asking yourself the six key questions above and answering them honestly. Your answers will help you analyze your current positioning in having a solid set of values and where they may need modifying. Once clearly defined, let your values direct your leadership activities to optimally foster an open, positive and motivational environment where attaining goals and sustaining success can consistently be achieved by you and your team.
Without consistently living a set of clear and non-conflicting values, there is no effective strategy or direct path to achieving and sustaining success.