ON THE COUCH: Shocking Confessions of a Self-Made Millionaire: DO YOU HAVE THE INTENT TO SUCCEED?

ON THE COUCH: Shocking Confessions of a Self-Made Millionaire: DO YOU HAVE THE INTENT TO SUCCEED?

Success is achieved by those who not only have an intent to succeed, but live intentionally every day to make it a reality. Yeah, yeah, we’ve all been over-dosed on the “just visualize it and it will happen” new age philosophy of manifestation. But, I’m here to shout it out to the rooftops that if you stop at visualization, you will not succeed. Merely sitting in an armchair visualizing your dream as a reality devoid of taking action, just won’t get you where you want to be. You must get up out of that armchair, hold that positive vision in your mind’s eye, head out your front door and live out each day by taking intentional action on everything that you can possibly do to realize your vision.

Wikipedia defines intention as: A mental state that represents a commitment to carrying out an action or actions in the future. Intention involves mental activities such as planning and forethought. My point here, being that, if there is no follow through on your mental commitment to take action, then the chain to success becomes broken.

“There are only two days in the year that nothing can be done. One is called Yesterday and the other is called Tomorrow. Today is the right day to Love, Believe, Do and mostly Live”
Dalai Lama

Living intentionally is how you become a master at crafting and attaining the life you desire. If you aren’t intentionally living your life, you are letting life live you, and that won’t get what you want. It’s the difference between being the victor of circumstances or the victim of circumstances. What will you choose?

 Here Are the Top 6 Ways to Live Each Day with the Intention to Succeed:

  1. Take Control: Run your day, don’t let the day or others run you. Someone else’s emergency, is not your emergency. Most “emergencies” are not emergencies. Keep calm, use rational judgement in deciding if, and when you need to become involved.
  1. Take Personal Responsibility: Don’t allow yourself to fall into old bad habits. Self-correct immediately if you find yourself slipping. Do not rationalize a slip with deluding yourself by believing: “It’s just one day, nothing bad will happen”.
  1. Don’t Wing it: Have a plan for your day and prepare for that interview, speech, presentation or meeting.
  1. Seize Each Day: Act as if today is the last day you’ll ever have the opportunity to succeed. Don’t take any day for granted. Each day is a precious gift waiting to be received.
  1. Be Fearless: Be bold. Be different. Lead and don’t follow. Live out loud the truth of who you are.
  1. Use Self-Restraint: Avoid engaging in distractions and in taking action on non-essentials, which are those things that do not directly relate to the accomplishment of your daily prioritized action plan.

Life can change in a blink of an eye. I have a saying: “count to one, and your life has changed forever”.  Live each day intentionally as if it’s your last day to take action on having the life you aspire to have tomorrow. In so doing, whatever may come tomorrow, you will have developed the habits and character traits of a champion and will succeed no matter what is or isn’t happening in life and the world around you.

In Closing My Shocking Confession: One day I’m prepped and ready to run both the LA and Boston Marathons. Then, BAM, the very next day, I was diagnosed with life-threatening cancer. The doctors told me I could not run Boston because being on a plane too far away from a hospital could jeopardize my life. I thought about what they told me. Then, I went on to run both marathons. I was strong, I had prepared, I KNEW within me that I would be ok and was determined not to succumb to fear or doing something that was going to rob me of attaining the goal that I had worked so hard to achieve. The “standard” protocol wasn’t going to become my standard. I intentionally lived each marathon day, and every day thereafter, fearlessly living my truth, pursuing my goals and honoring my belief that you don’t need to follow the “norm” to succeed. I have my finishers medals and I’m alive, well and happy.

ON THE COUCH: Shocking Confessions of a Self-Made Millionaire: To Thine Own Action Be True

ON THE COUCH: Shocking Confessions of a Self-Made Millionaire: To Thine Own Action Be True

The Success Gurus #1 gold standard advice for achieving success is to take massive action. They further advise prior to commencing taking action to specifically know: 1) the result you want to achieve 2) your purpose for wanting to attain it 3) the date you will achieve it by, and 4) the steps you will take. After jotting all down, you’re ready, set and go.

By now, everyone who has been on a quest for success has heard, and most likely followed this noteworthy advice. Yet, despite having followed it, aren’t satisfied with the success they’ve achieved. And, thus, often left suffering from feelings of failure. But, that simply is not the truth. The truth is that the formula has failed the person, not the person who has failed.

This traditional RX for success has neglected to include one massively important ingredient. That ingredient is Truth. You see, Truth is the one ingredient that makes each person unique. It’s the one ingredient that customizes and individualizes the RX for success. Otherwise, the RX is a generic, non-specific formulae that doesn’t take each person’s unique Truth into account. Well, no wonder why the formula doesn’t work very expediently or effectively!

Taking massive action works to attain super sized, sustainable success only when the actions taken are consistent with the truth of who you are.


Personal authenticity is what makes you special and comprises the unique offering you possess to gift upon the world and is your divined destiny to fulfil. Thus, it goes to reason, that any action taken (let alone massive action) devoid of the truth of who you are, is dissociative and disrupts one’s ability to attain and sustain success. Well, that’s a whole lot of wasted effort if you ask me!

Now that I’ve driven home the importance of applying personal authenticity to every action taken, there is an imperative add-on, that if not used in conjunction with authenticity, will cause all that energy expended to take massive action, to be ineffectual.  That add-on is this: to be both truthful and authentic.  These twin truths when combined provide the missing ingredient to the typical standard advice on how to achieve success.

Taking massive action becomes effective and speeds your time to success when you are being:

1.  Authentic. Living out the truth of who you are at your core.

2.  Truthful. Walking and talking the truth. Making decisions and taking actions that are consistent with truth not fabrication.

So, yes, go ahead and make “take massive action” your standard for success, but make “Truth” your gold standard of loyalty to yourself and all those you serve to achieve the super sized success that you desire and deserve.

In closing my shocking confession: I really believed I was going to knock it out the park! I took massive action and got the big job. I was thrilled. I was on my way to achieving my financial goal. Thrilled turned into derailed, when, I was like, WTF! I’m not happy and I’m not liking what I’m seeing, hearing or doing. I had just realized being a corporate spy was totally not me. Was it cool? Yes. Did it pay a lot? Yes. Is corporate spying a norm in America, yes. I hated it and myself for doing it. I took immediate action and quit.  My next action step was to take a time out to rediscover my inner truth, my authentic self (as corny as it all sounds) so that I could go on to take constructive rather than destructive massive action. I learned that massive action absent of truth is fruitless DOING. And, a loyalty to truth guarantees BEING a success.