ON THE COUCH: Shocking Confessions of a Self-Made Millionaire: 10x Recipe for Success

ON THE COUCH: Shocking Confessions of a Self-Made Millionaire: 10x Recipe for Success

Success experts are routinely saying that achieving success is hard. But, that simply is not true.

It’s not what you have to figure out, what you need to do, get or even how you need to go about it that’s hard. There is only one thing alone that can make it difficult, IF, you let it. You see, it’s all within your own power and control, to either let it get in your way or not get in your way.

The one thing that can make it easy or hard to achieve success is fortitude. Without it, the road to success is hard, if not impossible.

www.dictionary.com defines fortitude as: Mental and emotional strength in facing difficulty, adversity, danger, or temptation courageously.

Here are a few examples of how a lack of fortitude manifests itself:

  • When encountering a “no”, you accept it and don’t try to overcome the objection.
  • When told “It’s never been done that way before for a reason”, you accept the statement as fact and don’t investigate further and give up on your idea.
  • When an expert tells you, “It’s just not standard practice and I don’t advise you to pursue that path”, you readily accept their opinion without doing further research and analysis.
  • When encountering early failure you give up, making failure final rather than a sign to approach your goal from a new angle.
  • When in fear, you freeze up and turn your decision making over to someone else.
  • When tempted with a “sure thing” that would take you away from your major goal, you give in to temptation and give up on your own dream.

A person with fortitude, however, does not easily roll over, give up, quit or turn their power over to others.  In fact, they redouble their effort when they are hardest hit. Rejection, naysayers, and challenges cause them to become more determined than ever to find the means and ways to make their dream become a reality.

Fortitude implies a firmness and strength of mind, that enables us to do and suffer as we ought. It rises upon an opposition, and, like a river, swells the higher for having its course stopped”.
Jeremy Collier

How then, does one develop fortitude? To get the mental and emotional strength you need to achieve maximum success in minimum time, you’ll need to take a holistic approach to your life. That means taking care of the whole person that you are, mentally, physically, emotionally and financially.

Here are the top Four Ways to Fortify Yourself to Achieve 10X Success:

1. Reduce Decision Making: We’re bombarded daily with countless opportunities to drain our mental energy. Prioritize your decision making and focus only on what you need to do to advance your goal. Eliminate frivolous and unnecessary decision making.

2. Take Sound Care of Your Physical Body: Aside from the obvious of eating a brain/body smart diet, getting enough rest and exercise; be discerning what invitations you accept and events you decide to attend. Every physical demand placed on your body, is a demand placed on your mind and time. Be sure the expense is supportive of your overall wealth and well-being.

3. Regularly Engage in Spiritual Practices: Faith replaces fear and becomes fortitude. Keep your faith strong, emotions in a rational state and mindset positive through prayer and/or mediation.

4. Manage Your Money Mind Set: Don’t allow your mind to manage you. Take command and control of your mind. When financial fear strikes and takes hold of you, immediately replace it with a positive though, visualize a positive outcome, and then take rational action.

You are stronger than you think. You can do more than you can possibly ever imagine. You can succeed amidst seemingly impossible odds.

In Closing My Shocking Confession:  The renowned doctors told me “It can’t be done and you will die if you do that”. The attorneys told me “If you do that you will lose everything”. People in my industry told me “You’ll never succeed because you’re too honest”. In the face of every mental, physical and financial challenge, I listened, read, researched and then took a time out to turn to my higher power for faith, courage and direction ….and, in every instance, to the shock of many, succeeded against all odds.

ON THE COUCH: Shocking Confessions of a Self-Made Millionaire: One Magic Word Will Sky Rocket Your Success

ON THE COUCH: Shocking Confessions of a Self-Made Millionaire: One Magic Word Will Sky Rocket Your Success

You’re most likely thinking “This has to be a clickbait title. Surely, can’t be true that one word could cause rapid rise to success.”. But, this is not clickbait. This is a truism that too many talented people either don’t know about or fail to utilize in their quest for success.

Have you ever been part of a taste test or witnessed one? The taster is blindfolded and given two or more items that they then need to taste to identify which one is the “real” deal. The others are imitations. Uncovering and discovering the real you is the prerequisite to achieving maximum success in minimum time.

How does one do that? Well, since I’m the inventor of the Maximum Riches Formula™, of course I’m going to inform you about the one thing you must do and follow through on by applying it each and every day to all areas of your life. It’s the one thing that will sky rocket you to success in minimum time and most importantly, will cause you to sustain success. What’s success if it’s here today and gone tomorrow?

Here’s the One Thing You Must Do Right Now:

Answer this Question: What is the one word that describes you?

Yes, only one word. If you don’t already know the answer, odds are you are not achieving the success that you desire because you aren’t living in congruence with the unique truth of who you are.

A word of caution here in identifying your one magic word. It can’t be an exterior description. It must be an interior one-word description.

When I first started my journey to success, I thought my one word was “determined”, but that wasn’t it. I had to drill it down to uncover what was driving me to be determined. I call this uncovering your core driver. That core driver then becomes your one magic word that you must, in every and all circumstances, remain loyal and true to. If not, you’re not being the real deal. They say that imitation is the purest form of flattery. But, that DOES NOT mean being someone that is not true to you.

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Once you’ve discovered your one magic word, it becomes your biggest asset to achieving maximum success in minimum time because it’s the one thing that you know you must apply to all your thoughts, words, plans, procedures, decision-making and strategies. It is, in essence, your personal brand and what makes you uniquely you. That’s what gets you the real and right traction, attraction and results that will sky rocket you to sustainable success.

Now, be honest with yourself….What’s your magic word?

In Closing My Shocking Confession: I thought my magic word was “determined” early on in my life. Yes, I was very determined, but what was driving me to be so determined? I was on a quest to find out. But, something kept getting in my way of uncovering the answer. Every time I began to have a glimmer of light, darkness would fall and I couldn’t see it. I had to get real honest with myself. I had to get out of illusion and into truth. The truth was that the one word defining me at that point in time, blocking me from uncovering my magic word, was “addict”. Yes, unless and until I shed the behavior that was blocking me from being my authentic self, I would be powerless to become successful. I am now 28 years sober. My magic word is God-Centered.

ON THE COUCH: Shocking Confessions of a Self-Made Millionaire: SHORT CUT TO SUCCESS: Beware of the Success Bandit

ON THE COUCH: Shocking Confessions of a Self-Made Millionaire: SHORT CUT TO SUCCESS: Beware of the Success Bandit

I’m going to share a shocking truth that I experience practically on a daily basis. It still, even after decades of entrepreneurialism, never ceases to render me speechless. I want to share it so that it will help you to attain far greater success in shorter time frames. So, here it goes…

The truth is that there exist two classes of achievers. There is the genuine achiever and then there is the counterfeit variety. And, here’s the tricky part. It’s sometimes very difficult to discern which one a person is. One of the reasons why it’s so difficult to decipher is that a large segment of the counterfeit achiever class truly believes they are the real deal! They go to work each day, have all the key social media channels up and running, network, make sales calls and set appointments. On the face of it, they appear to be doing what successful people do. But, they have certain habits that if you aren’t aware of or chose to ignore, will rob you of achieving maximum success in minimum time.

Here Are the Top 6 Habits of the Success Bandit:

1. Catfishes: Lures prospects into a relationship (business or personal) by means of a fictional online or offline persona. Yes, they do this not only on Facebook, but also on Linked In.

2. Disrespects Your Time: Sets appointments only to cancel at the last minute, stand you up or show up late. And, often has the gumption to continue to contact you time and time again.

3. Doesn’t Follow Through: Has a great offering, but doesn’t ever put in the work to close the deal.

4. Talk and No Walk: The smooth talker. Charismatic, smart, knows what they are talking about and repeatedly makes promises and fails to honor them.

5. Regularly Goes Dark: Here one day and gone the next which always leaves you wondering if you will ever hear from them again. Until, yep, you get that text, email or call saying, “I haven’t forgotten about you. I’m still here and working on it”, only to disappear again.

6. Unrealistic: They frequently pursue that which is beyond their level of expertise

The number 1 way to avoid both the intentional and unintentional success bandit is to do your due diligence no matter how good something sounds or looks.  Due diligence means you never rush into anything regardless of your need to have something happen right away. Before you formally engage someone, ask for and call 3 references that they’ve done business with in the last 6 to 12 months. And, most importantly, do not ignore the signs of the success bandit!

Lastly, if you identify with some or all of the signs, and consistently wonder why you aren’t achieving the kind of success you feel you should be having, be honest with yourself, modify your habits and behavior, and watch as you finally become a genuine achiever.

This is not a personal rant. This is me, sharing my direct experience, to help you in becoming hyper-vigilant to quickly and expertly recognize who to choose to associate with that will most easily and effortlessly expedite your time to achieving the outcomes you desire. Cut to the chase and weed out the chaff! It doesn’t make you mean, it makes you smart and successful.

In Closing My Shocking Confession: I was interviewing companies to award a contract to handle a very important aspect of a global operation. I reached out to my colleagues to get recommendations feeling like that was the smartest way to cut to the chase and weed out the chaff. I was excited and confident about the prospects because they came from high profile and highly reputable corporations. Wow, was I shocked and disappointed. The CEO of the #1 prospect arranged three separate conference calls over a protracted period of time (often leaving me wondering if she was ever going to follow through) pulling in different senior executives each time to be a part of the needs analysis. I documented each call with a follow up email. On the last call, we clearly defined next steps. I never heard from them again, they never sent the needed documents. I moved on to my next best candidate. Lo and behold, many weeks later, I get a phone call from the CEO asking me to call her back. There was nothing more to talk about. The Success Bandit had already wasted enough time and energy.

My mistake here was that I had failed to perform my standard due diligence practice of talking to at least 3 references and had ignored the red flags because she had been referred by a hugely successful global corporation.

ON THE COUCH: Shocking Confessions of a Self-Made Millionaire: Go for Gold or Go Home

ON THE COUCH: Shocking Confessions of a Self-Made Millionaire: Go for Gold or Go Home

Success isn’t finite. It’s an on-going endeavor. It’s sooo not cool for the media, culture and “success gurus” to lead us on to believe that success is the attainment of a singular goal. Success, at least in my playbook, is defined as a lifetime achievement of wealth and well-being.  Any achievement short of that is representative of a step towards that goal and not a final destination.

It may seem daunting to some of you reading this post, that wealth and well-being is a lifetime endeavor. But, the truth is that any achievement of success, organically leads one to have to apply oneself to the preservation, protection and growth of that success achieved. The bottom line is that if you’re not growing your wealth and well-being then you’re depleting what resources you already have. It’s as simple as that.

Here’s the good news. It isn’t as daunting as it may seem at first blush. There is only 1 thing you need to do to ensure that your wealth and well-being becomes a never-ending vein of gold for you to continue to draw from. That thing is (it’s what every gold miner does on a daily basis)— to continuously prospect for gold.

Cambridge Dictionary defines prospecting as: “The activity of searching for gold, oil, or other valuable substances on or under the surface of the Earth”.  And, that is exactly what needs to be done to ensure a lifetime of wealth and well-being. We need to continue to dig deep for the gold in all areas of our lives. We need to keep prospecting for both the internal and external wealth.

And, the truth is that optimal and sustainable health, wealth and well-being comes from becoming inside rich which makes one fit for sustainable success.

“As simple as it sounds, we all must try to be the best person we can: by making the best choices, by making the most of the talents we’ve been given.”
~ Mary Lou Retton, USA gold medalist in gymnastics in 1984

The #1 priority, first and foremost, if you want to have a lifetime of optimal wealth and well-being, is to actively and continuously dig deep within the well of your own being to extract the gold that lies within and then carry it out into the world to prospect for the best like-minded, values aligned prospects to team with to preserve, protect and expand your wealth and well-being.

Will you choose to Go for the Gold for a lifetime of wealth and well-being by becoming a daily prospector?

In Closing My Shocking Confession:  I had just banked a HUGE check. It was enough to last some people a lifetime. I thought to myself “Wow, now I can just relax and coast for years to come.” I had worked super hard to earn that check and it had necessitated me to prospect deep within the well of my own body, mind and spirit to uncover and extract the valuable assets hidden deep within to harness the mental, physical, spiritual and financial strength required to carry me through the challenges along the way. It’s true, the answers always lie deep within ourselves…where to go, what to do, who to choose. After I banked that check, I took two days off to prospect deep within myself for the discovery of my next move. I prayed, meditated, walked out in nature, and on that 2nd night I had a blissful night sleep.  Upon awakening, I began to prospect once again…for my next gold strike. You see, I have a lot I want to give to the world…there is no time to coast.

ON THE COUCH: Shocking Confessions of a Self-Made Millionaire: DO YOU HAVE THE INTENT TO SUCCEED?

ON THE COUCH: Shocking Confessions of a Self-Made Millionaire: DO YOU HAVE THE INTENT TO SUCCEED?

Success is achieved by those who not only have an intent to succeed, but live intentionally every day to make it a reality. Yeah, yeah, we’ve all been over-dosed on the “just visualize it and it will happen” new age philosophy of manifestation. But, I’m here to shout it out to the rooftops that if you stop at visualization, you will not succeed. Merely sitting in an armchair visualizing your dream as a reality devoid of taking action, just won’t get you where you want to be. You must get up out of that armchair, hold that positive vision in your mind’s eye, head out your front door and live out each day by taking intentional action on everything that you can possibly do to realize your vision.

Wikipedia defines intention as: A mental state that represents a commitment to carrying out an action or actions in the future. Intention involves mental activities such as planning and forethought. My point here, being that, if there is no follow through on your mental commitment to take action, then the chain to success becomes broken.

“There are only two days in the year that nothing can be done. One is called Yesterday and the other is called Tomorrow. Today is the right day to Love, Believe, Do and mostly Live”
Dalai Lama

Living intentionally is how you become a master at crafting and attaining the life you desire. If you aren’t intentionally living your life, you are letting life live you, and that won’t get what you want. It’s the difference between being the victor of circumstances or the victim of circumstances. What will you choose?

 Here Are the Top 6 Ways to Live Each Day with the Intention to Succeed:

  1. Take Control: Run your day, don’t let the day or others run you. Someone else’s emergency, is not your emergency. Most “emergencies” are not emergencies. Keep calm, use rational judgement in deciding if, and when you need to become involved.
  1. Take Personal Responsibility: Don’t allow yourself to fall into old bad habits. Self-correct immediately if you find yourself slipping. Do not rationalize a slip with deluding yourself by believing: “It’s just one day, nothing bad will happen”.
  1. Don’t Wing it: Have a plan for your day and prepare for that interview, speech, presentation or meeting.
  1. Seize Each Day: Act as if today is the last day you’ll ever have the opportunity to succeed. Don’t take any day for granted. Each day is a precious gift waiting to be received.
  1. Be Fearless: Be bold. Be different. Lead and don’t follow. Live out loud the truth of who you are.
  1. Use Self-Restraint: Avoid engaging in distractions and in taking action on non-essentials, which are those things that do not directly relate to the accomplishment of your daily prioritized action plan.

Life can change in a blink of an eye. I have a saying: “count to one, and your life has changed forever”.  Live each day intentionally as if it’s your last day to take action on having the life you aspire to have tomorrow. In so doing, whatever may come tomorrow, you will have developed the habits and character traits of a champion and will succeed no matter what is or isn’t happening in life and the world around you.

In Closing My Shocking Confession: One day I’m prepped and ready to run both the LA and Boston Marathons. Then, BAM, the very next day, I was diagnosed with life-threatening cancer. The doctors told me I could not run Boston because being on a plane too far away from a hospital could jeopardize my life. I thought about what they told me. Then, I went on to run both marathons. I was strong, I had prepared, I KNEW within me that I would be ok and was determined not to succumb to fear or doing something that was going to rob me of attaining the goal that I had worked so hard to achieve. The “standard” protocol wasn’t going to become my standard. I intentionally lived each marathon day, and every day thereafter, fearlessly living my truth, pursuing my goals and honoring my belief that you don’t need to follow the “norm” to succeed. I have my finishers medals and I’m alive, well and happy.