ON THE COUCH: Shocking Confessions of a Self-Made Millionaire: 6 Growth Hacking Questions to Consistently Grow Your Success

ON THE COUCH: Shocking Confessions of a Self-Made Millionaire: 6 Growth Hacking Questions to Consistently Grow Your Success

There is only one strategy that works to continuously grow your success and that’s through consistently evolving yourself.

As one rises to ever-increasing levels of success, one’s life becomes more complex. There simply are far more decisions that need to be made, new strategies to learn, more demands placed on your time and energy, more people pursuing you, and more energy spent on how to keep one’s life in balance and not lose one’s self in the process.

There is only one asset that one can’t afford to lose and that’s oneself. How then does one, amid the crush of the overwhelming tidal wave of increasing success, ensure that they keep themselves from diminishing themselves thereby diminishing their success or compromising their #1 asset which is themselves? The answer is to have a set of questions that you can routinely ask yourself that will reliably give you an accurate assessment if you are stagnating or growing your success.

“If we’re growing, we’re always going to be out of our comfort zone.”
~John Maxwell

The Top 6 Success Growth Hack Questions to Routinely Ask Yourself:

1. Am I primarily focusing on having more or becoming more?
Example: You are not spending any time on inner growth, self-reflection or investing in personal development.

2. What can I do to evolve myself to the next level right now?
Example: An honest realization of a character defect that is preventing you from self-growth exhibited through a bad habit.

3. Am I striving daily to maintain a balanced achievement of both wealth and well-being?
Example: Are you taking time to nourish your body, mind, spirit, relationships and effectively managing your money.

4. If I’m being 100% honest with myself, one bad habit I have that keeps me from expanding my wealth and well-being is?
Example:  Expecting or allowing others to do for you what you should be doing for yourself.

5. What New habit can I start right now that will get me outside of my current rut and into taking new action to achieve my next level of success?
Example: Stop isolating and get out to new events and meet new people.

6. Am I being honest and true to myself or am I compromising myself and my values to get ahead or get along?
Example: Not being honest or forthright in fear of losing something or someone.

There are two ways to grow. Either you initiate it or outside forces will foist it upon you.  By being proactive in routinely growing yourself, when unexpected challenges present themselves, you will be optimally equipped to handle them with grace, dignity, strength and personal power. Most importantly, you will be rock solid in remaining true to yourself while adeptly converting any challenge into an opportunity to grow yourself, your wealth and well-being.

In Closing My Shocking Confession: It’s so easy to blame, point fingers, get frustrated and angry and think the problem is somebody else. And, maybe it is a problem within the other person.  But one day, I realized that if I can’t unhook from allowing myself to get so frustrated that it disrupts my peace of mind, then who am I to cast judgement on someone else’s character if I lack self-control? I decided right then and there to practice not getting angry. As silly as it sounds, I had a goal not to swear or get angry before noon each day. I failed a lot. I saw 1st hand how easy it was to trigger my emotions. Did I take out these feelings of anger on the other person? No. And, for a long time, I thought that was good enough. But, I realized that to grow myself, I had to control myself to the next highest level.

ON THE COUCH: Shocking Confessions of a Self-Made Millionaire: Convert Your Losses into Wins for Ever Lasting Success

ON THE COUCH: Shocking Confessions of a Self-Made Millionaire: Convert Your Losses into Wins for Ever Lasting Success

Happy New Year! I’m determined to make this my most successful year ever! How about you?

No matter how much success or lack of success you’ve achieved up to this point, there is always a way forward to expand your wealth and well-being. But, expansion takes introspection, and if you’re not willing to go to any lengths to grow yourself, how can you possibly believe you’re going to increase your wealth and well-being? It’s magical thinking to believe you’ll get that which you want and haven’t yet gotten, by doing the same ole’ things. To get what you want, you must do something different. And, your own happiness and success is 100% your full responsibility, not anybody else’s.

The New Year is always a good time to take a fearless personal inventory of yourself to realistically determine what new behaviors and habits you need to do to achieve the success that you want in 2018 and beyond.

One immediate way to enter the new year and to shift your attitude to a success mindset is to begin to see every single outcome as an opportunity to increase your success. You see, defeat only becomes failure if you accept it as such. Defeat is an opportunity waiting to be transformed into a bigger success than if you had achieved victory the 1st go around—that is if you know how to convert your losses into wins.

Here Are the Top Four Ways to Convert Your Perceived Losses into Even Greater Wins:

1. Attitude is Everything: Adopt a winner’s attitude about success by understanding that you will win some and lose some. The uber successful know that it’s not whether they win or lose that counts, but how they handle both scenarios that will determine the amount of sustainable success they’ll be able to achieve going forward. Have an attitude of grace, gratitude and a commitment to extract the growth opportunity in every win or loss and you’ll succeed beyond your expectations.

2. Drop the Blame Game: Blame is a total waste of valuable energy, that time spent there, only delays your time frames to your next win. Take the hit, grab the gold in what the situation revealed and move into renewed action.

3. Use Hindsight as a Valuable Tool: All positive action starts with assessment. Use rational analysis rather than self-loathing to evaluate what you’ve learned, what you’ll do differently or additionally next time around. Seeing hindsight as an asset and roadmap to your next win will make the assessment a positive experience.

4. Be a Long-Term Player: Everyone wants to be a long-term player, but not everyone has the long-term player play book. Only the grateful, graceful, good sportsmanlike behaved, and compassionate person (who truly cares about everyone’s success), will become a successful long-termer. Those who don’t, won’t or can’t, simply will not be able to sustain success in the long-run.

Be a good sportsman and have a successful yearIf you can honestly say that you went all in it to win it, regardless of the perceived outcome, you’ve won. Be truthful with yourself in assessing if you gave 100% commitment to the process and if not, don’t beat yourself up. Use the valuable insight gained to grow your success going forward. That’s what winners do.

We are perfectly imperfect human beings. But, if you continue to do the interior work by taking fearless personal inventory, you will continue to grow yourself and your ability to expand your everlasting wealth and well-being.

In Closing My Shocking Confession: I was looking for a company to place a very large order with. There were a handful of companies who threw their hat in the ring to compete to win the bid. I was one-third the way through the selection process, when a company who was one I had initially reached out to, finally came forward. Though late on the scene, the executive was very personable, communicative, informative and within competitive market cost range. It finally came down to choosing between the late-comer and the first-comer. The first-comer had earned an early advantage that the late-comer just wouldn’t be able to make up in the time frames I needed. Once I advised the late-comer that I had decided to go with his competitor, but that I would be awarding another contract next quarter, the exec dropped me like a hot potato – no reply.  In hindsight, the late on the scene action was a tip-off of the type of unsportsmanlike conduct that would later be revealed. He not only lost once, but lost all my business going forward.

ON THE COUCH: Shocking Confessions of a Self-Made Millionaire: 10x Recipe for Success

ON THE COUCH: Shocking Confessions of a Self-Made Millionaire: 10x Recipe for Success

Success experts are routinely saying that achieving success is hard. But, that simply is not true.

It’s not what you have to figure out, what you need to do, get or even how you need to go about it that’s hard. There is only one thing alone that can make it difficult, IF, you let it. You see, it’s all within your own power and control, to either let it get in your way or not get in your way.

The one thing that can make it easy or hard to achieve success is fortitude. Without it, the road to success is hard, if not impossible.

www.dictionary.com defines fortitude as: Mental and emotional strength in facing difficulty, adversity, danger, or temptation courageously.

Here are a few examples of how a lack of fortitude manifests itself:

  • When encountering a “no”, you accept it and don’t try to overcome the objection.
  • When told “It’s never been done that way before for a reason”, you accept the statement as fact and don’t investigate further and give up on your idea.
  • When an expert tells you, “It’s just not standard practice and I don’t advise you to pursue that path”, you readily accept their opinion without doing further research and analysis.
  • When encountering early failure you give up, making failure final rather than a sign to approach your goal from a new angle.
  • When in fear, you freeze up and turn your decision making over to someone else.
  • When tempted with a “sure thing” that would take you away from your major goal, you give in to temptation and give up on your own dream.

A person with fortitude, however, does not easily roll over, give up, quit or turn their power over to others.  In fact, they redouble their effort when they are hardest hit. Rejection, naysayers, and challenges cause them to become more determined than ever to find the means and ways to make their dream become a reality.

Fortitude implies a firmness and strength of mind, that enables us to do and suffer as we ought. It rises upon an opposition, and, like a river, swells the higher for having its course stopped”.
Jeremy Collier

How then, does one develop fortitude? To get the mental and emotional strength you need to achieve maximum success in minimum time, you’ll need to take a holistic approach to your life. That means taking care of the whole person that you are, mentally, physically, emotionally and financially.

Here are the top Four Ways to Fortify Yourself to Achieve 10X Success:

1. Reduce Decision Making: We’re bombarded daily with countless opportunities to drain our mental energy. Prioritize your decision making and focus only on what you need to do to advance your goal. Eliminate frivolous and unnecessary decision making.

2. Take Sound Care of Your Physical Body: Aside from the obvious of eating a brain/body smart diet, getting enough rest and exercise; be discerning what invitations you accept and events you decide to attend. Every physical demand placed on your body, is a demand placed on your mind and time. Be sure the expense is supportive of your overall wealth and well-being.

3. Regularly Engage in Spiritual Practices: Faith replaces fear and becomes fortitude. Keep your faith strong, emotions in a rational state and mindset positive through prayer and/or mediation.

4. Manage Your Money Mind Set: Don’t allow your mind to manage you. Take command and control of your mind. When financial fear strikes and takes hold of you, immediately replace it with a positive though, visualize a positive outcome, and then take rational action.

You are stronger than you think. You can do more than you can possibly ever imagine. You can succeed amidst seemingly impossible odds.

In Closing My Shocking Confession:  The renowned doctors told me “It can’t be done and you will die if you do that”. The attorneys told me “If you do that you will lose everything”. People in my industry told me “You’ll never succeed because you’re too honest”. In the face of every mental, physical and financial challenge, I listened, read, researched and then took a time out to turn to my higher power for faith, courage and direction ….and, in every instance, to the shock of many, succeeded against all odds.

ON THE COUCH: Shocking Confessions of a Self-Made Millionaire: One Magic Word Will Sky Rocket Your Success

ON THE COUCH: Shocking Confessions of a Self-Made Millionaire: One Magic Word Will Sky Rocket Your Success

You’re most likely thinking “This has to be a clickbait title. Surely, can’t be true that one word could cause rapid rise to success.”. But, this is not clickbait. This is a truism that too many talented people either don’t know about or fail to utilize in their quest for success.

Have you ever been part of a taste test or witnessed one? The taster is blindfolded and given two or more items that they then need to taste to identify which one is the “real” deal. The others are imitations. Uncovering and discovering the real you is the prerequisite to achieving maximum success in minimum time.

How does one do that? Well, since I’m the inventor of the Maximum Riches Formula™, of course I’m going to inform you about the one thing you must do and follow through on by applying it each and every day to all areas of your life. It’s the one thing that will sky rocket you to success in minimum time and most importantly, will cause you to sustain success. What’s success if it’s here today and gone tomorrow?

Here’s the One Thing You Must Do Right Now:

Answer this Question: What is the one word that describes you?

Yes, only one word. If you don’t already know the answer, odds are you are not achieving the success that you desire because you aren’t living in congruence with the unique truth of who you are.

A word of caution here in identifying your one magic word. It can’t be an exterior description. It must be an interior one-word description.

When I first started my journey to success, I thought my one word was “determined”, but that wasn’t it. I had to drill it down to uncover what was driving me to be determined. I call this uncovering your core driver. That core driver then becomes your one magic word that you must, in every and all circumstances, remain loyal and true to. If not, you’re not being the real deal. They say that imitation is the purest form of flattery. But, that DOES NOT mean being someone that is not true to you.

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Once you’ve discovered your one magic word, it becomes your biggest asset to achieving maximum success in minimum time because it’s the one thing that you know you must apply to all your thoughts, words, plans, procedures, decision-making and strategies. It is, in essence, your personal brand and what makes you uniquely you. That’s what gets you the real and right traction, attraction and results that will sky rocket you to sustainable success.

Now, be honest with yourself….What’s your magic word?

In Closing My Shocking Confession: I thought my magic word was “determined” early on in my life. Yes, I was very determined, but what was driving me to be so determined? I was on a quest to find out. But, something kept getting in my way of uncovering the answer. Every time I began to have a glimmer of light, darkness would fall and I couldn’t see it. I had to get real honest with myself. I had to get out of illusion and into truth. The truth was that the one word defining me at that point in time, blocking me from uncovering my magic word, was “addict”. Yes, unless and until I shed the behavior that was blocking me from being my authentic self, I would be powerless to become successful. I am now 28 years sober. My magic word is God-Centered.

ON THE COUCH: Shocking Confessions of a Self-Made Millionaire: SHORT CUT TO SUCCESS: Beware of the Success Bandit

ON THE COUCH: Shocking Confessions of a Self-Made Millionaire: SHORT CUT TO SUCCESS: Beware of the Success Bandit

I’m going to share a shocking truth that I experience practically on a daily basis. It still, even after decades of entrepreneurialism, never ceases to render me speechless. I want to share it so that it will help you to attain far greater success in shorter time frames. So, here it goes…

The truth is that there exist two classes of achievers. There is the genuine achiever and then there is the counterfeit variety. And, here’s the tricky part. It’s sometimes very difficult to discern which one a person is. One of the reasons why it’s so difficult to decipher is that a large segment of the counterfeit achiever class truly believes they are the real deal! They go to work each day, have all the key social media channels up and running, network, make sales calls and set appointments. On the face of it, they appear to be doing what successful people do. But, they have certain habits that if you aren’t aware of or chose to ignore, will rob you of achieving maximum success in minimum time.

Here Are the Top 6 Habits of the Success Bandit:

1. Catfishes: Lures prospects into a relationship (business or personal) by means of a fictional online or offline persona. Yes, they do this not only on Facebook, but also on Linked In.

2. Disrespects Your Time: Sets appointments only to cancel at the last minute, stand you up or show up late. And, often has the gumption to continue to contact you time and time again.

3. Doesn’t Follow Through: Has a great offering, but doesn’t ever put in the work to close the deal.

4. Talk and No Walk: The smooth talker. Charismatic, smart, knows what they are talking about and repeatedly makes promises and fails to honor them.

5. Regularly Goes Dark: Here one day and gone the next which always leaves you wondering if you will ever hear from them again. Until, yep, you get that text, email or call saying, “I haven’t forgotten about you. I’m still here and working on it”, only to disappear again.

6. Unrealistic: They frequently pursue that which is beyond their level of expertise

The number 1 way to avoid both the intentional and unintentional success bandit is to do your due diligence no matter how good something sounds or looks.  Due diligence means you never rush into anything regardless of your need to have something happen right away. Before you formally engage someone, ask for and call 3 references that they’ve done business with in the last 6 to 12 months. And, most importantly, do not ignore the signs of the success bandit!

Lastly, if you identify with some or all of the signs, and consistently wonder why you aren’t achieving the kind of success you feel you should be having, be honest with yourself, modify your habits and behavior, and watch as you finally become a genuine achiever.

This is not a personal rant. This is me, sharing my direct experience, to help you in becoming hyper-vigilant to quickly and expertly recognize who to choose to associate with that will most easily and effortlessly expedite your time to achieving the outcomes you desire. Cut to the chase and weed out the chaff! It doesn’t make you mean, it makes you smart and successful.

In Closing My Shocking Confession: I was interviewing companies to award a contract to handle a very important aspect of a global operation. I reached out to my colleagues to get recommendations feeling like that was the smartest way to cut to the chase and weed out the chaff. I was excited and confident about the prospects because they came from high profile and highly reputable corporations. Wow, was I shocked and disappointed. The CEO of the #1 prospect arranged three separate conference calls over a protracted period of time (often leaving me wondering if she was ever going to follow through) pulling in different senior executives each time to be a part of the needs analysis. I documented each call with a follow up email. On the last call, we clearly defined next steps. I never heard from them again, they never sent the needed documents. I moved on to my next best candidate. Lo and behold, many weeks later, I get a phone call from the CEO asking me to call her back. There was nothing more to talk about. The Success Bandit had already wasted enough time and energy.

My mistake here was that I had failed to perform my standard due diligence practice of talking to at least 3 references and had ignored the red flags because she had been referred by a hugely successful global corporation.