ON THE COUCH: Shocking Confessions of a Self-Made Millionaire: DO YOU HAVE THE INTENT TO SUCCEED?

ON THE COUCH: Shocking Confessions of a Self-Made Millionaire: DO YOU HAVE THE INTENT TO SUCCEED?

Success is achieved by those who not only have an intent to succeed, but live intentionally every day to make it a reality. Yeah, yeah, we’ve all been over-dosed on the “just visualize it and it will happen” new age philosophy of manifestation. But, I’m here to shout it out to the rooftops that if you stop at visualization, you will not succeed. Merely sitting in an armchair visualizing your dream as a reality devoid of taking action, just won’t get you where you want to be. You must get up out of that armchair, hold that positive vision in your mind’s eye, head out your front door and live out each day by taking intentional action on everything that you can possibly do to realize your vision.

Wikipedia defines intention as: A mental state that represents a commitment to carrying out an action or actions in the future. Intention involves mental activities such as planning and forethought. My point here, being that, if there is no follow through on your mental commitment to take action, then the chain to success becomes broken.

“There are only two days in the year that nothing can be done. One is called Yesterday and the other is called Tomorrow. Today is the right day to Love, Believe, Do and mostly Live”
Dalai Lama

Living intentionally is how you become a master at crafting and attaining the life you desire. If you aren’t intentionally living your life, you are letting life live you, and that won’t get what you want. It’s the difference between being the victor of circumstances or the victim of circumstances. What will you choose?

 Here Are the Top 6 Ways to Live Each Day with the Intention to Succeed:

  1. Take Control: Run your day, don’t let the day or others run you. Someone else’s emergency, is not your emergency. Most “emergencies” are not emergencies. Keep calm, use rational judgement in deciding if, and when you need to become involved.
  1. Take Personal Responsibility: Don’t allow yourself to fall into old bad habits. Self-correct immediately if you find yourself slipping. Do not rationalize a slip with deluding yourself by believing: “It’s just one day, nothing bad will happen”.
  1. Don’t Wing it: Have a plan for your day and prepare for that interview, speech, presentation or meeting.
  1. Seize Each Day: Act as if today is the last day you’ll ever have the opportunity to succeed. Don’t take any day for granted. Each day is a precious gift waiting to be received.
  1. Be Fearless: Be bold. Be different. Lead and don’t follow. Live out loud the truth of who you are.
  1. Use Self-Restraint: Avoid engaging in distractions and in taking action on non-essentials, which are those things that do not directly relate to the accomplishment of your daily prioritized action plan.

Life can change in a blink of an eye. I have a saying: “count to one, and your life has changed forever”.  Live each day intentionally as if it’s your last day to take action on having the life you aspire to have tomorrow. In so doing, whatever may come tomorrow, you will have developed the habits and character traits of a champion and will succeed no matter what is or isn’t happening in life and the world around you.

In Closing My Shocking Confession: One day I’m prepped and ready to run both the LA and Boston Marathons. Then, BAM, the very next day, I was diagnosed with life-threatening cancer. The doctors told me I could not run Boston because being on a plane too far away from a hospital could jeopardize my life. I thought about what they told me. Then, I went on to run both marathons. I was strong, I had prepared, I KNEW within me that I would be ok and was determined not to succumb to fear or doing something that was going to rob me of attaining the goal that I had worked so hard to achieve. The “standard” protocol wasn’t going to become my standard. I intentionally lived each marathon day, and every day thereafter, fearlessly living my truth, pursuing my goals and honoring my belief that you don’t need to follow the “norm” to succeed. I have my finishers medals and I’m alive, well and happy.

ON THE COUCH: Shocking Confessions of a Self-Made Millionaire: MONEY MAKE-OVER: Five Bad $ Habits to Avoid

ON THE COUCH: Shocking Confessions of a Self-Made Millionaire: MONEY MAKE-OVER: Five Bad $ Habits to Avoid

Everyone wants more money, whether they admit it or not. Some people are ashamed to admit they want more because they think it makes them a bad person. It doesn’t make you bad for wanting to improve the quality of your own or others’ lives!  Admit it!  Go ahead and say it out loud “I want more money”!  Own it! And, if you can’t own the fact that you want more, then the deficit of intention and desire is going to cause a deficit in the amount of financial well-being that you can create.

Yes, belief and intention are a strong part of the wealth creation process and you must have both the belief that you CAN have it and the intention that you WILL have it.  But, the most powerful step in wealth creation lies beyond mindset. Positive mindset must move you from thinking to doing the things that support your belief and intention. Otherwise, the disharmony will prevent wealth creation. So, go ahead and master your mind, but then you must mind your habits.

Don’t make a HABIT out of choosing what feels good over what’s actually good for you.”
Eric Thomas

The mind ignites the mind over matter process, but it’s one’s habits that cause the manifestation of one’s goal.

Here are the Five Common Bad Money Habits to Avoid in Your Quest for Wealth:

1. Lack of Impulse Control: You see it and you must have it. You can’t stop yourself from spending when you’re confronted with that yummy thing even when you know it’s not good for you or your pocket book. Avoid places you know trigger spending on what you can’t afford or the things that don’t assist you in attaining your goals.

2. Not Asking for What You Want: Fear of asking for what you rationally and realistically deserve. Understand your worth, conquer your fear and just do it. Those who don’t ask, don’t get.

3. Putting All Your Eggs in One Basket: Entire Countries have gone bankrupt and banks have gone under. Mitigate potential loss, preserve and grow your wealth by diversifying. Don’t wait until “some day when I ..”.

4. Avoiding Reality: I know it’s easier to be in denial rather than to accept the reality of what you have, don’t have and what needs to be done to get control over your financial situation. But, you must face reality head on and get outside help if you need it. Face the facts and reap the rewards.

5. Harmfully Rewarding yourself: I witness this one all the time. Yes, you’ve worked hard and you’ve just accomplished a goal and you deserve to reward yourself. But, rewarding yourself with something that feels good today, yet causes you a loss tomorrow, is not a reward, it’s self-punishment. A reward isn’t something that hurts your financial or physical health.

Make up your mind to give yourself a money make-over by taking a fearless inventory of your top five bad money habits. Write them down. Next, write down the positive new ones that you commit to replacing them with.

Now, go out and prosper! YOU GOT THIS! If I could do it, you can too.

In Closing My Shocking Confession: I like nice things. Period. It’s in my blood LOL. But, I have great impulse control. I do not indulge in any behavior or bad habit that causes me financial or physical harm. That’s just how I roll. Nowadays that is. But, I wasn’t always this way. Quite the opposite. There were those years before I transformed myself, that I thought it really cool and a sign of success to buy that brand-new Porsche that I couldn’t really afford or score some drugs and go out on a 2 day “celebration” bender when I closed deals. Thank God, I figured out that trading what feels good in the moment for what actually is good for me, is the key to success.